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ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, in Hebden Bridge HX7 8HJ, near Halifax, West Yorkshire

And all over the world via Skype, email and the telephone system

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Your problems are our concern…

Your happiness is our goal…

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Effective counselling promotes the emotional intelligence of the client: “Descriptions of emotional intelligence are as old as accounts of human behaviour.  In both testaments of the Bible, (and among) Greek philosophers, Shakespeare, Thomas Jefferson, and modern psychology, the emotional aspect of reason has been discussed as a fundamental element of human nature.  People who hone their emotional intelligence have the unique ability to flourish where others flounder.  Emotional intelligence is the ‘something’ in each of us that is a bit intangible.  It defines how we manage behaviour, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results”. 

Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves (2005) The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book, Page 24. (17)

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Dr Jim’s comments: In terms of affect regulation theory, and attachment theory, emotional intelligence begins in our mother’s arms, where we learn ‘who’ we ‘are’, and why they ‘are’, and how the world (of feeling) works.  But if that was badly managed in our childhood, it can be modified to a significant extent when we are adults, by ‘curative relationships’, which might be personal and perhaps romantic, or professional, as with a skilful affect regulation therapist or counsellor!

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Our approach to your body-mind

jim-nata-couples-pg-w300h245If you want your mind to be happy and healthy, then you have to work at keeping your body fit and well – (in addition to managing your thoughts and feelings).

If you want your body to be fit and well, then you need to manage your mind – (as well as your diet and physical exercise).

If you want your body-mind to function well in the world – to be fit and well and happy and effective and well-connected in happy relationships – then you need to know that your guts (intestines) are the Achilles Heel of the whole system.  What you eat and drink, and how well you digest it, makes a huge difference to both your physical and mental well-being.

Buddha2So, if you are struggling with any aspect of your body-mind-environment-wholeness, then come and see us and we will use our best coaching/ counselling ‘detective skills’ to help you to identify the key contributors to your current state, and the essential priorities for self-healing and personal growth.

And if there are any habits you need to change, we can show you how to do that.

Dr Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne

01422 843 629

Email: Admin @ abc-counselling.com

April 2016

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Contact form: To send us a message, please use this form:

Hello,

And welcome.

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Homepage-quoteIf you are in need of a helpful and caring counsellor, then you have come to the right place.

This is the website of Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne, a creative partnership which helps people to grow, change and heal.

A good counsellor means: Somebody who has resolved their own emotional, behavioural and relationship problems from the early years of their lives; and who has also been trained to help you to do the same for yourself.

Thus we are able to help you to change and grow; to think and feel more self-helpfully.

A good counsellor knows how to analyse your problems into meaningful stories, and to suggest strategies for rewriting your story so that it has a more positive future outcome.

We can help you with problems of anger, rage, anxiety, panic, stress and strain; sadness, grief and depression; relationship problems, at home and at work; self-confidence, self-esteem and self-assertion; plus childhood trauma and attachment issues.

We have dozens and dozens of testimonials from satisfied customers from the past.  For example:

♣ “Dear Jim, We are very pleased with the result we got from the couples therapy sessions we had with you.  Our problems are now largely resolved, and we are enjoying our relationship”.

O.A., Bradford, West Yorkshire. (Three sessions of couples therapy; combined with four sessions of individual therapy for one member of this couple).

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We are holistic counsellors, so we relate to you as a socialized body-mind-environment whole.  We do not think of you as a ‘floating head’.  So we can advise you on how to optimize your body-mind functioning for physical and emotional well-being.

Counselling clients can benefit from understanding the nature of counselling, and the work that counsellors and therapists do: “Counsellors and therapists are among those who aim to help people to get back on the right track so that life’s journey can continue as happily as possible.  They use their skill and knowledge to help people understand and take more control of their life.  Through a process of regular meeting and talking they work to deepen the client’s awareness of the emotional aspects of his or her problems.  As clients develop understanding, they can make decisions and take more control over their response to life.  The advantage of such helpers is that they have no vested interest in how you decide to run your life.  The therapy they offer is an opportunity to evaluate yourself and your life objectively, so that you can make wise and appropriate decisions about the future”.

Sheila Dainow (2001) Be Your Own Counsellor: Your step-by-step guide to understanding yourself. Page 1. (18)

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Dr Jim’s comments: Sheila’s comments refer to what is called the ‘secondary affect regulation’ process – which is cognitive (or language-based reasoning).  However, E-CENT counsellors also work on the ‘primary affect regulation process’, which relates to how well the client manages their emotional arousal: too high (or hyper-aroused – as in anger, anxiety, and mania); or too low (or hypo-aroused, as in depression, shame, grief or hurt).

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Here is a little video clip on the benefits of our system of counselling, coaching and psychotherapy:

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We can see you in Hebden Bridge, or we can talk over the telephone.

Blue-logo7Sometimes one or two counselling sessions is enough to help an individual to get back on their own self-directed track. (But it is common for complex problems to take very much longer than that!)

And if you find it hard to relate to the idea of coming for coaching, counsellor or therapy; then you could come and see us for a tutorial – an educational/learning experience to do with your problems of daily living.

“Thank you, Renata, for all the help you have given me in learning to think and feel in ways that were alien to me before I consulted you. I have been on a long journey from suffering to joy!”

P.J.M.  Sheffield, UK (Several consultations for a range of stuck issues, over a period of years).

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We look forward to helping you!

Jim.Nata.Couples.pg.jpg.w300h245 (1)For more information, about each of us, and how we could help you, please click one of the following links:

Dr Jim’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Division

Renata’s Coaching and Counselling Division

Or phone us today on: 01422 843 629

Or email: admin@abc-counselling.com

Or use this contact form:

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Blue-logo7Our approach to counselling

The system of counselling, coaching and psychotherapy that we practice is a holistic integration of various pre-existing systems, including cognitive, emotive, behavioural, and narrative approaches. We have both been trained in REBT/CBT, and in a range of other models. And we also teach the importance of effective management of your diet, physical exercise, relaxation/meditation, and other holistic strategies.

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Good enough counsellors provide a healing relationship for their counselling clients: How can counselling relationships help the client to grow and have better relationships in the real world?  “In the world according to Bowlby, our lives, from the cradle to the grave, revolve around intimate attachments.  Although our stance toward such attachments is shaped most influentially by our first relationships, we are also malleable.  If our early involvements have been problematic, then subsequent relationships can offer second chances, perhaps affording us the potential to love, feel, and reflect with the freedom that flows from secure attachment.  (Counselling and) psychotherapy, at its best, provides just such a healing relationship”.

Dr David Wallin, Attachment in Psychotherapy, 2007, page 1 (19)

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We look forward to helping you!

Jim.Nata.Couples.pg.jpg.w300h245 (1)For more information, about each of us, and how we could help you, please click one of the following links:

Dr Jim’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Division

Renata’s Coaching and Counselling Division

Or phone us today on: 01422 843 629

Or email: admin@abc-counselling.com

Or use this contact form:

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Holistic Counselling in Practice: An introduction to Emotive-Cognitive Embodied Narrative Therapy, by Dr Jim Byrne

Book-cover-frontDr Jim Byrne spent six years (from 2001 to 2007) exploring the possibility of reformulating Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT): to remove some fundamental weaknesses, and to ground it in psychological science, and in moderate Stoic and Buddhist philosophy.  Out of this work came the Complex ABC model of Reformed REBT.  But the ABC model (of REBT) continued to be a problem, because it asserts that only the client’s beliefs (or B’s) play a significant role in human disturbance; or they play the determining role.  But Dr Byrne knew that diet, exercise, relationships (in the past and the present), plus socioeconomic circumstances and other, external, environmental stressors, play a major role in determining the emotional state of socialized-individuals.

Dr Jim's photoTherefore, he spent a further nine years (2007 to 2016) developing a new system, called Emotive-Cognitive Embodied Narrative Therapy (E-CENT)*** – which has at its core a new, updated, Holistic SOR (Stimulus-Organism-Response) Model – which can accommodate all of the multitude of factors which affect human emotional and behavioural functioning.  In the process, he also developed the Six Windows Model*** (for re-framing difficult circumstances and problems) – and adapted a whole range of new and borrowed models, into a unique system of holistic counselling, coaching and psychotherapy.

Now you can learn this whole system from Dr Byrne’s latest book: Holistic Counselling in Practice: An introduction to Emotive-Cognitive Embodied Narrative Therapy***.

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ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, 27 Wood End, Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ, UK.  Telephone: 01422 843 629 (from inside the UK): and 44 1422 843 629 (from outside the UK).

Principals:

Dr Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor Byrne

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Google maps for this area are inaccurate; so if you want to get directions to 27 Wood End, it’s necessary to search for 27 Keighley Road, Hebden Bridge, instead.  This may also apply to some Satnav systems. (But the actual address is 27 Wood End!)

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Dr Jim’s Counselling Division

About Dr Jim Byrne – Doctor of Counselling

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Introduction

In that time I have helped more than 850 individuals (many of them in couple counselling) to overcome a range of problems, from anger, anxiety and depression, via poor self-confidence and stress and strain, to insecure attachment style and couple conflict.

Here’s a little video clip that explains some of the benefits of consulting me about your problems of daily living:

I have received dozens and dozens of unsolicited testimonials from satisfied clients.

♣ “Thanks for all your help Jim – I found our sessions really insightful – and they’ve really helped me understand my passive behaviour, and how to become more self-assured in situations of work conflict. So far I’ve read the depression leaflet every day – I absolutely intend to continue every day for several months.  My depression has lifted and I feel great.”

T.L., Todmorden, Lancs.  (Three sessions of counselling for depression about work related stress).

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For more, go to Dr Jim’s Counselling division…***

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Renata’s Coaching Division

Coaching and Counselling in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire

Introduction

Life can be very tough, and people can really benefit from developing their problem-solving skills: and that’s where I come in. I currently provide help to individuals who may be struggling with any one of a whole range of personal and/or professional problems.

Seeing people achieve their goals is greatly rewarding for me, and I am always researching and experimenting with how you can achieve your goals and overcome your problems and difficulties more efficiently; and how the barriers to your optimum development can be removed.

Unsolicited Client Testimonial

“Dear Renata, Thank you for the help you gave me during my recent upset.  You provided great hope and encouragement.  I particularly liked the exercise on what I can and cannot control.  That really brought me out of my depressed state.  I also felt that you could feel my pain!  Thank you.”

L.B., Taunton, Devon.  (Four sessions of telephone counselling for grief and depression and relationship problems).

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Background

For many years, I have taught counselling skills, stress management, self assertion, nutrition, and self-presentation skills.  In addition, I have attended personal development marathons, like the Landmark Forums and Gestalt Training Workshops; and other seminars and workshops, such as Gael Lindenfield’s Assertiveness Training workshops.

I have been practising daily Zen Meditation for more than 35 years; daily physical exercise, including some Chinese exercise systems; and managing my diet and my mind through various processes that I can teach to you.

I have also helped hundreds of individuals with all kinds of practical, emotional and behavioural problems.

For more, please go to Renata’s Coaching Division.***

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E-CENT Institute Homepage

Welcome to the Institute for Emotive-Cognitive Embodied Narrative Therapy (E-CENT)

The core mission of the institute is to review the most prominent and most promising models of the human body-mind, created by the major philosophers and psychologists, from the time of the Buddha and Plato to modern times.

These include the models of Plato, Aristotle, Freud and the post-Freudians; Ellis and the cognitive-behaviourists; Attachment theory, Object relations, and Affect regulation theory; Interpersonal neurobiology; Transactional Analysis, Zen Buddhism and Moral philosophy; and many other useful ideas and theories.

In E-CENT counselling, we teach some of the core insights of Buddhism and Stoicism.  Here’s a simple example of how that works:

The Buddha said: “Get a grip on your mind”.

The core of the work of an E-CENT counsellor is designed to help our clients to get a grip on their mind; their thinking; their feeling states; their behaviour patterns. (2b)

However, unlike the Buddha, and because of historical changes, we emphasize that you will never get a grip on ‘your mind’ unless you realize you are actually a body-brain-mind-environment whole; and you have to take seriously the self-management of each of those elements, especially by paying attention to diet, exercise, nutritional supplementation, (which were not big issues in the time of the Buddha), as well as meditation and self-discipline of your thinking-feeling (which were!)

Dr Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne

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We work very hard to promote awareness of the links between diet, exercise, relaxation, meditation, on the one hand, and the quality of our mental functioning on the other.

So, in addition to being a secure base for our clients; and teaching them more empowering ways to think, and to manage their emotions; we also introduce them to: Meditation; relaxation; physical exercise; balanced diet; vitamin and mineral supplementation; and other important elements of body-mind hygiene.

For more, please go to The Institute for E-CENT.***

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What is Transactional Analysis, and how is it used in E-CENT counselling?

Four models from Transactional Analysis (TA) counselling, as used in Classic TA and in E-CENT counselling: (1) The ego-state theory and model; (2) Script theory; (3) The Drama Triangle; and (4) the OK Corral.  Quotes and video footage from Dr Eric Berne.

Image-3-Intro-TA.JPGResource 3 – How to understand and apply Transactional Analysis (TA) in your life

by Dr Jim Byrne

12th September 2015 Updated 13th July 2016

Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2009-2015

Introduction

Sigmund Freud created the insight that the human individual has three main components to their personality or being.  These are: (1) the part that was born (the body-mind, or the ‘it’); (2) The internalized others (mainly mother and father, etc; which he called the over-I); and (3) The socialized personality (which he called the I: which Anglicized psychoanalysis called ‘the ego’).

Freud’s system of psychoanalysis was slow and difficult, and involved trying to externalize the contents of the non-conscious part of the mind of the patient/client.

Eric Berne was an American medical doctor and trained psychiatrist, who, at the end of the Second World War, was interested in finding ways of making psychoanalysis more accessible to ordinary people, in a way that was quicker and more efficient than Freud’s approach.

For more, please go to What is Transactional Analysis (TA)? page.***

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The best kept secret of counselling and therapy

Blog Post No.146

10th  July 2016

Dr Jim’s Counselling Blog:

The best kept secret of counselling and therapy: The role of the client…

Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling

 

Introduction

One of the best kept secrets of counselling and psychotherapy is this: The qualities of the client are at least as important as the qualities of the counsellor, in terms of determining the outcome (positive or negative).

But how can we refine this insight, this secret, so that it becomes clearer and more helpful or useful?

Defining client qualities

  1. If the client knows they have a problem that they cannot resolve for themselves; and theyrealize that they are committed to resolving it nevertheless; and they twig that somebody else might have some kind of expert knowledge which could help them to solve their problem; and they realize that a counsellor or therapist could be just such a person: then they have a fighting chance of being able to access counselling, and to make good use of a counselling relationship and related processes.
  2. If this person then becomes a willing counselling client, and they have had the kind of experiences of being parented – when they were a child – which allows them to ask for help, and to take advice and guidance – then they have a good chance of being able to find out what their counsellor has in their toolbox which they could use to resolve their own most important problem(s).

For more, please go to Dr Jim’s Counselling Blog…***

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How can having a coach help anyone?

Blog Post No. 37

20th July 2016

Copyright © Renata Taylor-Byrne 2016

Renata’s Coaching & Counselling blog: How can having a coach help anyone?

Introduction

          “If I am through learning, I am through”. John Wooden

It’s not dead obvious how a coach can help you, and many people think that coaches are only for footballers, rugby players, tennis players and other sports-people, business people – but not for ordinary people.

But why not?

Ordinary people face massive challenges which are just as crucial, if not more so, than the challenges faced by people who are preparing for the Olympics!

Ordinary people (and extraordinary non-athletes!) face great challenges as they work to provide for themselves and their loved ones

Here are some of the massive challenges people face in ordinary life, as they try to create a decent life for themselves and their families:

…For more, please go to Renata’s coaching and counselling blogs.***

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Couples therapy and Marriage guidance in Hebden Bridge

Dr Jim's photoCouples Therapy and Marriage Guidance in Hebden Bridge, near Halifax, West Yorkshire; and all over the world via the telephone and Skype.

Counselling services for couples – help with conflict and communication problems –

It has often been said, including by Werner Erhard, that people can’t communicate because what they call communication isn’t communication at all; and they cannot manage relationships, because their definitions of relationship are naive and simplistic.  I can teach you how to communicate effectively with your loved ones, and to have great relationships at home and at work.

Dr Jim Byrne, Couple counsellor

May 2016

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Couples Therapy and Marriage Guidance in Hebden Bridge

By Dr Jim Byrne – Doctor of Counselling

May 2016

Introduction

Hello,

I have now been in private practice as a coach/ counsellor/ psychotherapist for more than seventeen years, in Hebden Bridge, near Halifax, West Yorkshire; and all over the world via the telephone and internet systems.

During that time, I’ve been pleased to help dozens and dozens of couples with all kinds of marriage, relationship and communication problems. Here’s a little video introduction to the kinds of ideas that I teach to my clients in couple’s therapy:

Here are just three of the testimonials I’ve received from some of those couples:

♣ Email feedback: “Dear Jim, … PS: We consulted you by telephone a few years ago, for relationship conflict, involving a very serious rift … And we are now happily married with a nine month old child.  Your help was fantastic, and we still use the phrases and descriptions you used then.  In fact, we have a list of insights on a laminated poster on our living room wall, to keep us on the straight and narrow! We will always be grateful for those insights.”  S.W. (and P.W), Sheffield. (Six sessions of telephone counselling [using speaker phone] for couple conflict and relationship advice).

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For more, please go to Couples Therapy with Dr Jim Byrne in Hebden Bridge.***

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Anger management counselling, coaching, psychotherapy in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ

By Dr Jim Byrne

July 2016

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Principles of E-CENT Anger Management Counselling

By Dr Jim Byrne

July 2016

Angry-manAnger is one of the main emotions that humans feel in certain kinds of stressful situations.  The other two are anxiety and depression.

Anger is the emotion that corresponds to the ‘fight response’ when an animal or human feels threatened, or (in the case of humans), seriously frustrated by another person, or insulted by somebody, or confronted by the bad behaviour of others.

In civilized societies, anger can be appropriate to the circumstances surrounding the angry individual, or excessive and aggressive.

In order to teach our clients how to manage their anger appropriately, we have evolved a set of principles which can help to summarize coping self-talk, and coping actions.

Here are the first three (of ten such principles):


Innate-angerPrinciple 1
: Anger is natural, normal and innate, or inborn into each of us. So you should not try to get rid of all traces of your anger.

Anger can keep us safe in a dangerous world. But it can also lead us to engage in conflict that is against our best interests.

Anger can help us to know when we are being threatened, exploited or exposed to danger, and help us to fight our way out.  And it is good to learn a system of self-defence which will reduce your aggression, and keep your powder dry until you absolutely have to use it!

It is often the case that what is required is a moderate level of anger, directed in the form of assertive actions or assertive communications.

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Here’s a little video clip on anger management:

For more information on anger  management, please to to my Anger Management Counselling – Hebden Bridge – page.***

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