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ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, and all over the world via the Internet and telephone systems…

We can help you to be happier, healthier and more successful

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“Counselling has the potential to transform your life; and to give you a future you could not otherwise have imagined.  The provisos are that: you find the right counsellor; build the right kind of relationship with them; and do the work that makes the difference!”  Dr Jim Byrne, March 2019

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Hello and welcome to our counselling, coaching and psychotherapy website.  If you need help with common problems of everyday living – including anger, couple conflict, anxiety, depression, stress, effective communication, self-confidence, self-esteem, lifestyle counselling and coaching (including diet.nutrition, physical exercise, sleep problems, work/life balance) then we can help you.

We are:

drjim-counsellor9Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling; and Lifestyle Counsellor-Psychotherapist… In Hebden Bridge

…with more than twenty years’ experience of helping individuals with problems of anger management; couple relationship problems; emotional difficulties (with depression, anxiety, stress, etc); attachment and family of origin problems, and so on.

For more information, please click this link: Dr Jim’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Division.***

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nata-lifestyle-coach8Renata Taylor-Byrne, Psychology graduate, and Lifestyle Coach-Counsellor… In Hebden Bridge

…with more than thirty years’ experience of supporting individuals with their issues of stress management, self-development, personal growth, lifestyle choices, self-confidence and self-esteem, assertive interpersonal communication, life goals, self-discipline and habit change, and much more besides.

For more information, please click the following link: Renata’s Lifestyle Coaching and Counselling Division.***

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We are independent practitioners of:

# Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy;

# Researchers of lifestyle counselling issues, including: philosophy of life;  work/life balance; stress management; nutrition; physical exercise; and sleep science;

# Authors and co-authors of a range of books on counselling and personal development issues; and

# Authors of blogs on similar topics.

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Front coverA counsellor reflects upon models of mind

Integrating the psychological models of Plato, Freud, Berne and Ellis

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By
Dr Jim Byrne

Doctor of Counselling

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Prices from: £5.99 (Kindle) and £14.99 GBP (Paperback)

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Paperback and eBook versions available

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Holistic Counselling in Practice:

An introduction to the theory and practice of Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy

whole cover holistic couns reissued

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By Jim Byrne DCoun FISPC

With Renata Taylor-Byrne BSc (Hons) Psychol

Prices from: £5.83p GBP (Kindle) and £15.18p (Paperback)

Paperback and eBook versions

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In earlier posts, we have been exploring the subject of emotional health, as it applies to counselling clients, and to counselling and therapy contexts and agendas: Dr Oliver James has said that: “Possessing emotional health has nothing to do with how intelligent or attractive or ambitious or rich you are.  In fact, it is possible that high achievers are the least likely to be emotionally healthy, of any group.  Many emotionally healthy people have relatively low-paid, low-status jobs and focus more on their home than their work lives”.

“Most of us are born emotionally healthy.  A baby knows exactly who he or she is.  Most toddlers know who they are and, when they feel safe, are spontaneously joyful.  The play of small children offers a model to all adults.  It is usually when children go to school, especially from ages seven to nine, that the challenges to emotional health arise most visibly.  As the pressure to fit in and compare themselves with others builds, it becomes increasingly normal to be emotionally unhealthy.  Not until late middle age or old age, after a long period of being largely defeated by the challenges, does emotional health begin to return, if at all.  As Oscar Wilde put it, ‘To live is the rarest thing in the world.  Most people exist, that is all’.”

Oliver James (2014) How to Develop Emotional Health.  Page 3. (70)

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Oliver James is a specialist in child psychology, so I am reluctant to directly challenge any of his formulations above.  However, I suspect that, in the case of extremely disturbed families, the disturbance begins to appear long before the child goes to school.  For example, in Mahler, Pine and Bergman’s famous (1975/1987)[1] observations of children (preschool toddlers) in a research context in New York City, it was obvious that some of the children were more securely attached and more emotionally healthy than some of the others.

Dr Jim Byrne (2014 – Updated in March 2019)

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[1] Mahler, M.S., Pine, F. and Bergman, A. (1975/1987) The Psychological Birth of the Human Infant: Symbiosis and individuation.  London: Maresfield Library.

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On this website you will find the following information:

ABC Newsletter

⊕ About Us:

♣ About Dr Jim Byrne

♦ Info pack for Face to Face clients in Hebden Bridge

♦   Schedule of fees for counselling services

♦   Counselling client testimonials

♦   Dr Jim’s accreditations, and ethics codes

♦   Dr Jim’s blog

♦   Jim Byrne’s Doctoral Thesis

♦  Jim’s autobiographical novel

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♣   About Renata Taylor-Byrne

♦   Accreditations, and ethics codes, RTB

♦   Coaching-Counselling fees scale

♦  Contact details and location

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Lifestyle Counselling and Coaching for the Whole Person:

Cover, full, revised 7- Feb 13 2018

Or how to integrate nutritional insights, exercise and sleep coaching into talk therapy.

By Dr Jim Byrne, with Renata Taylor-Byrne

Prices: from £4.26 GBP (Kindle) to £12.64 (paperback)

Paperback and eBook versions.

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Counselling clients are affected by both their environments and their mental attitudes.  Not just one or the other: Dr Oliver James, the British psychologist, attributes the causation of much of the increase in anxiety and depression, in the UK and the Anglo-American world in general, to what he calls “Selfish Capitalism”, which is essentially the post-Thatcher/Reagan neo-liberal, marketization of society, and the vast expansion of economic and social insecurity.  (This analysis is supported by ‘The Spirit Level’, by Wilkinson and Pickett).  If this is the case, then it is politically reactionary to blame the client for “causing their distress” by their “irrational beliefs” and “negative automatic thoughts”.  We know from Buddhism and Stoicism that the mind plays a big part in our level of tranquillity/contentment; but even a highly enlightened Zen Buddhist monk may squeal like a stuck pig when attacked by a burglar!  As Shylock asks, in Shakespeare’s ‘Merchant of Venice’: “If you prick us, do we not bleed?”

Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, July 2014. (Updated in March 2019)

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Front cover2Anger, resentment and forgiveness:

How to get your inappropriate anger under reasonable control

  By Dr Jim Byrne

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This book is based on twenty years’ experience by the author in providing anger management counselling and coaching to hundreds of individuals.

This is the most comprehensive review of strageties for reducing and controlling anger.

It is now available at Amazon.  Prices will be posted soon.

Learn more.***

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♣   Dr Jim’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Division

♦  Couples therapy in Hebden Bridge

♦  Anger management counselling

♦  Depression counselling

♦  Anxiety counselling

♦  Personal transformation

♦  Habits and change

♦  Telephone counselling, plus email and Skype

Telephone counselling with Dr Jim

Email Counselling

Skype-and-webcam counselling

♦  Counselling supervision services

Coaching for writers / authors and other creators…

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♣  Renata’s Lifestyle Coaching and Counselling Division

♦  Intro to Renata’s Coaching Division

♦   Stress management in Hebden Bridge

♦  Renata’s blog

♦  Private tuition in life skills

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Front cover design 3How to Control Your Anger, Anxiety and Depression:

Using nutrition and physical activity.

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Changing your philosophy of life will not control your emotions, unless you also attend to your diet and exercise needs.

By Renata Taylor-Byrne and Jim Byrne

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Prices: from £3.10 (Kindle) to £9.93 GBP (paperback)

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Paperback and eBook versions.

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Counsellors must beware of the theories of cognitive psychologists, lest we are led into errors of judgement: Daniel Goleman, in his book on emotional intelligence, draws attention to the quick and slow routes to emotion activation.  These two routes were earlier described by Joseph LeDoux, in The Emotional Brain.  The first route involves an environmental stimulus, and an automatic, habit-based emotional response.  As long as the problem continues, the emotion persists, but perhaps at a lower level, as a negative mood.  The second route (according to LeDoux and Goleman) involves conscious thinking about a situation, which includes making evaluative appraisals of a situation as good or bad.  If the appraisal infers that ‘this is good, or nice’, the emotion will be positive.  If the appraisal implies that ‘this is bad for me and/or mine’, the emotion will be negative.  But Goleman, like most modern cognitivists, seems to overlook the fact that we humans are 95% non-conscious processors of information.  We do not normally sit around making conscious appraisals of anything!  In E-CENT, we say the second route is just as automatic and non-conscious as the first route.  Humans are mainlynon-conscious processors of information!

Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, July 2014. (Updated in March 2019)

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front cover, dragonsFacing and Defeating your Emotional Dragons:

How to process old traumas, and eliminate undigested pain from your past experience

By

Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling

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Prices from: £6.16p (Kindle) and £13.63 GBP (Paperback) 

For more information, please click the links that follow:

Paperback and eBook versions

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Benefits of E-CENT Counselling

Books on E-CENT counselling and related personal development subjects

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Top secrets for Building a Successful Relationship: 

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Volume 1 – A blueprint and toolbox for couples and counsellors: C101

By Dr Jim Byrne, with Renata Taylor-Byrne

Prices from £6.65 GBP (Kindle) to £19.48 GBP (paperback)

Paperback and eBook versions

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How to Write a New Life for Yourself:

Writing Theapy book cover

Narrative therapy and the writing solution.

By Dr Jim Byrne, with Renata Taylor-Byrne

Prices: from £4.22 GBP (Kindle) to £13.27 (paperback)

Paperback and eBook versions.

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⊕ Contact us – how to

⊕ Free Resources

♣  Counselling, psychotherapy and human emotions

♣  Transactional Analysis

♣  REBT: The limitations and errors in this system of counselling and psychotherapy

♣  Writing Therapy Guidelines

♣  Zen Tigers and Dale Carnegie – Or how to control your anxiety and stress

The E-CENT Stress and Anxiety Diet

⊕ How to find us, in Hebden Bridge

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REBT Pages

Attached to this page, you will find a few pages of information about this journey, as follows:

♣ 1. REBT: The limitations and errors in this system of counselling and psychotherapy

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2. Albert Ellis – A wounded psychotherapist

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3. Unfit for Purpose: The case against Rational Emotive and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (RE & CBT)

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Cover444REBT: Unfit for Therapeutic Purposes:

The case against RE&CBT

Prices: from £4.65 (Kindle) to £21.44 GBP (paperback)

Paperback and eBook versions.

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In this book, you will find a range of detailed refutations of some of the core theories and models of rational emotive therapy (REBT)

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Counselling clients do not choose their emotions and actions, as was erroneously claimed by Dr Albert Ellis.  Counselling clients, like their counsellors and therapists, are automatic creatures of habit: In a perceived or sensed emergency situation, our emotional reactions are automatic, spontaneous, and habit-based.  As Daniel Goleman writes: “This is the power of such rapid decisions: they mobilize us in an instant to rise to an emergency.  Our most intense feelings are involuntary reactions; we cannot decide when they will erupt”.  Love, anger and fear seem to happen to us “independently of the will”.  What Goleman does not say is this: We are creatures of habit. We have no choice but to respond today on the basis of our past social conditionings, and our own self-trainings.  If we want to change our emotional reactions, so they are less destructive, and more pro-social and self-helping, then we have to start training ourselves today (for example, in counselling and therapy), so that we can learn to deliver better emotional responses (automatically) tomorrow: (or rather, next week, and next month, and next year).

Quotations from: Daniel Goleman (1996) Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ.  Page 293. (Posted here on 17th March 2019).

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⊕ Links pages

♣  Counselling and Psychotherapy links

♣  Our top 20 coaching links

♣  Psychology links

♣  Our top 20 Personal Development links

♣  Alternative health and related issues

♣  Hebden Bridge and West Yorkshire sites of public interest

♣  Other sites of interest

♣  Counsellors, coaches and psychotherapists in Hebden Bridge

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Writing Theapy book coverHow to Write a New Life for Yourself:

Narrative therapy and the writing solution.

By Dr Jim Byrne, with Renata Taylor-Byrne

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Prices: from £4.22 GBP (Kindle) to £13.27 (paperback)

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Paperback and eBook versions.

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In E-CENT counselling, we teach the importance of a sense of security in relationships.  The roots of security and insecurity can both be found in the childhood experiences of the counselling and therapy client.  All children experience a fear of abandonment from about the age of six months onwards, from the point at which they become aware of themselves as separate individuals.  From that point onwards, they depend upon their parents for survival, but also for reassurance that the parents will always be there for them – will not abandon them under any circumstances.  Children who get this kind of reassurance repeatedly will come to feel secure by the time of adolescence; but those who do not get it will always tend to feel insecure in their relationships with their peers and love objects. The fortunate ones, who get the sense that they will never be abandoned “…have a deep inner feeling that the world is a safe place in which to be and protection will be there when it is needed.  With this internal sense of the consistent safety of the world, such a child is free to delay gratification of one kind or another, secure in the knowledge that the opportunity for gratification, like home and parents, is always there, available when needed”.

Adapted from, and directly quoted from: M. Scott Peck (1983/1990) The Road Less Travelled: The new psychology of love, traditional values and spiritual growth.  Page 24. (Posted here on 17th March 2019)

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Footer information

If searching for us on Bing Maps, or Google Maps, then please search for 27 Keighley Road, Hebden Bridge, HX7 8HJ, UK.

The reason for the current confusion is that most mapping systems have mismanaged the mapping of this area! (To be fair, it’s not an easy area to map!)

Here is our location on Bing Maps: https://binged.it/2JAQEHv

If you want to write to us, then please use our official address, as used by the Post Office: 27 Wood End, Keighley Road, Hebden Bridge, HX7 8HJ, West Yorkshire, UK.

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For further information, please:

Telephone: 01422 843 629 (UK): 44 1422 843 629 (from outside the UK)

Or email us: Jim Byrne

or

Renata Taylor-Byrne

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A1, Jim and Nata counselling homepage

We follow a set of ethical codes which are described on our personal pages.  We help adults only, aged above 18 years, and preferably above 21 years of age.  We do not do any work with children.

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Link to free self development resources: Self Improvement from SelfGrowth.com

Link to Alexa Internet Inc.: https://www.alexa.com 

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You can find us on Bing Maps, at this location: https://binged.it/2DkGJFw

Or on Google Maps, at this location: 27 Keighley Road, HX7 8HJ

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