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ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire…

…and all over the UK, US, Ireland, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Singapore, and for English speakers everywhere

Do you need help with problems of daily living, related to health, wealth or happiness, at home or in work? Or Covid-19 related problems?

We provide confidential counselling, psychotherapy and coaching for all manner of personal and professional problems.

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A1, Jim and Nata counselling homepage

Hello and welcome to the website of Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne.

We operate two separate divisions, with slightly different offerings, as follows:

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Dr Jim, Oct 2019About Dr Jim Byrne’s Counselling and Psychotherapy services; plus his background education, training, qualifications, registrations and ethics codes.***

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Nata-Lifestyle-coach8About Renata Taylor-Byrne’s Counselling and Coaching services; plus her background education, training, qualifications, registrations and ethics codes.***

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ABC Bookstore Maximal Charles 2019We also research, write and edit books on self-help, personal development, and counselling-related topics.***

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Our counselling service can help you with problems of anger, anxiety and depression; stress management; anger management; couples therapy and relationship conflict; life coaching; lifestyle counselling; and relationship attachment and personality problems.

We can help with Covid-19 anxiety and couple conflict or family conflict! We can also help with Psychological First Aid, if you are working through the traumatic effects of contracting Covid-19; losing a loved one to this dreadful illness; or working with the sick and dying.

Contact details:

Telephone: 01422 843 629 (from inside the UK)

Telephone: 44 1422 843 629 (from outside the UK)

Or email one of us to book your appointment:

Either: Email Dr Jim Byrne: drjwbyrne@gmail.com

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Or: Email Renata Taylor-Byrne, BSc.(Hons) Psychol.: renata@abc-counselling.org

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Telephone counselling image for mini-serviceOr take a look at our Telephone Counselling service.***

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A good counsellor should have training and experience in helping clients to solve their own emotional, behavioural and relationship problems: “Counselling denotes a professional relationship between a trained counsellor and a client.  This relationship is usually person-to-person, although it may sometimes involve more than two people.  It is designed to help clients to understand and clarify their views of their life-space, and to learn to reach their self-determined goals through meaningful, well-informed choices and through resolution of problems of an emotional or interpersonal nature”. 

Burks and Steffire, 1979. Quoted in McLeod, 2003, Introduction to Counselling, page 7. (81)

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Three benefits of counselling and psychotherapy, by Dr Jim Byrne

The main benefits that clients gain from our coaching, counselling and psychotherapy services include the following:

1. A listening ear.  We all know that a problem shared is a problem halved.  And being listened to by a professional coach, counsellor, psychotherapist can halve your level of distress, and help you to clarify for yourself exactly what is bothering you, and what your goals are in relation to that clarified problem. This helps to be clear about the solutions that are available to you, and the actions you need to take to move forwards.

2. A teaching /learning experience. When clients come to see us, they often think they know precisely what their problem is, but fail to recognize that they are looking at their life from a limited frame of reference. We can often teach our clients new ways of looking at their strengths and weaknesses; their blind spots; their potential for change; and we also teach them many new ways of thinking and feeling about their problems.

A secure, emotionally supportive relationship of care, respect and support. We provide a secure base for our clients, building up their sense of secure attachment in the world. Humans are emotional and relational beings.  We need to be loved, and to feel securely connected to other people in the world. “No person is an island, complete within themselves”. We all need to be securely connected to somebody, and we teach our clients to feel securely attached to us, and then to generalize that feeling in the wider world.

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Narrative counselling can design new ways of seeing the client’s problem or process: “A key idea (in narrative counselling and therapy) is that some ways of talking can position the person, in relation to an issue or concern, in such a way that there can seem no possible movement forward.  A different way of talking, by contrast, can open up new possibilities for feeling and action…”

From: John McLeod, 2007, Counselling Skill, page 3. (84)

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Three benefits of coaching/counselling, by Renata Taylor-Byrne

  1. A good coach/counsellor reflects back to you what you have told them, to ensure accuracy of understanding, and also to help you to hear what you have on your mind. The simple act of telling a coach/ counsellor what your current challenges or goals are, externalises what is going on in your mind, and is very good for reducing stress. Our brains are designed to deal with incoming information, and to act on the basis of the information they receive. They are not designed for rumination (endlessly agonising and mulling over information about a problem or unresolved situation.)
  2. A good coach/counsellor listens actively to you and summarize what you are saying at intervals, to keep you on track. The act of expressing yourself is very good for you and frees up a lot of stored energy. Being understood by another person, and having your feelings felt by them, is therapeutic. Reflective listening by the coach/counsellor helps you to know yourself better, and to feel understood.
  3. The coach/counsellor enables you to clarify your concerns or goals. Some goals may become apparent as you express yourself; and clarifying what you want or need is an essential part of the listening process. The process of active listening helps to build a relationship of trust between you and your coach/counsellor, as it provides evidence of their attunement to you, and their empathy or concern for your welfare and wellbeing. Together you work on creating a new way of resolving your identified barriers to happiness in your life.

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The E-CENT approach to narrative counselling includes getting the client’s story, and helping to rewrite the story: “A narrative approach (to counselling) recognizes the value of the basic human process of storytelling.  From such a perspective, it is possible to see that what many people want, when they seek counselling, is … an opportunity to tell their story, and have it received and affirmed…”.  In E-CENT, this is combined with the provision of a ‘secure base’, and help to think about feeling states, and to learn some new approaches to solving storied problems.

Quotation from: John McLeod, 2007, Counselling Skill, page 3. (90).

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A two-minute description of what to expect from counselling or psychotherapy at ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, by Dr Jim Byrne

When you consult us, you will get at least five benefits: a listening ear; a teaching/learning experience; reassurance; a secure emotional base; and appropriate advice. In addition, we can help you to:

  1. Identify what went wrong in your past.
  2. Understand how that has affected you. And:
  3. Recognize how to ‘complete your experience’ of what went wrong, so you can ‘re-frame it’, digest it, and let it go. (‘Letting it go’ means, finally, filing the past in the past!)

Sometimes we will also provide you with written materials that provide detailed background information on how particular emotions are created, and how to manage and reduce them; how behaviour is related to thinking/feeling; and so on.

You will also get an attentive relationship of care, respect and consideration.

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Counselling is essentially about talking through your problems; exploring the practicalities, the possibilities, the interpretations and the scope for change: “At the heart of any form of counselling is making a space to talk it through.  This phrase is offered as a kind of touchstone … and operates as a reminder of what the role of counselling actually is in relation to the troubles that people experience…”

Quotation from: John McLeod, 2007, Counselling Skill, page 3. (86).

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What happens in my system of counselling/psychotherapy? By Dr Jim Byrne

Firstly, I set out to form a secure relationship of attachment with my new clients. I then try to find out where their focus of attention is: on the past; the present; or the future?

If they are focused strongly in the past, I tend to explore their attachment style (to their parents – from early childhood); and perhaps their Story of Origins and their Story of Relationships. I also try to unearth any childhood abuse or neglect, and determine whether they were traumatize in childhood, as that would call for a different form of therapy than more superficial, present-time problems.

If their focus is on the future, with worry or anxiety, then I try to help them reframe the things they worry about, so that they show up as less frightening or worrying.

And if their focus is on present–time problems, I would most liked tend to use practical problem solving strategies.

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Telling your life story in a more empowering way is one of the major functions of narrative therapy: “Some psychoanalytic theorists have suggested that one of the purposes of (counselling and) therapy is to enable the client to retell their life story in a more satisfactory and coherent manner…”

John McLeod, An Introduction to Counselling, 2003. Page 241. (88)

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How we integrate the body, brain and mind in practice, in our counselling, psychotherapy and coaching work, By Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne

Our approach to counselling, coaching and psychotherapy is basically a system of talk therapy, but with the addition that we talk to our clients about their diet, exercise, self-talk; their home life; their work life; their sleep patterns; their stress and relaxation patterns. We focus as much on the client’s emotions and bodily state as we do on their philosophy of life and self-talk (or inner dialogue).  We also focus on their relationships and communication skills; and we take a close look at family history in those cases where there seems to be more to their problems than can be accounted for by their current life circumstances. The main model that we use to organize all of this work is our own Holistic Stimulus-Organism-Response model, which is described below. This model helps us to track down what is causing our clients to feel emotionally distressed.

While psychotherapists like Albert Ellis tended to emphasize the role of the counselling client’s beliefs in the causation of anger, anxiety, depression, and so on, Oliver James, and his concept of ‘affluenza’, tends to emphasize living in a materialistic environment. As Dr James writes:

“Nearly ten years ago, in my book Britain on the Couch, I pointed out that a twenty-five-year-old American is (depending on which studies you believe) between three and ten times more likely to be suffering depression today than in 1950. … In the case of British people, nearly one-quarter suffered from emotional distress … in the past twelve months, and there is strong evidence that a further one-quarter of us are on the verge thereof.  … (M)uch of this increase in angst occurred after the 1970s and in English-speaking nations”.  People’s beliefs have not changed so much over that time.  This is evidence of the social-economic impact of the post-Thatcher/Reagan neo-liberal economic policies!

Oliver James (2007) Affluenza: How to be successful and stay sane.  Page xvi-xvii.

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And now, here is our Holistic-SOR model – where S = Stimulus; O = Organism (or person); and R = Response (emotional and/or behavioural, made by the organism or person), which is strongly affected by the factors listed in Column 2: including diet, exercise, sleep, etc.

Holistic-SOR-model2

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“Emotive-Cognitive Embodied Narrative Therapy (E-CENT) is an exciting and vibrant new theory of counselling and therapy, which was crafted, and is still being crafted, ongoingly, out of my personal and professional struggle to make sense of the various theories of human thinking/feeling/acting that have been generated since the time of Freud (and indeed, even before that time in the philosophies of thinkers like Plato, Aristotle, Kant, Locke, Hume, and others).

“When clients come to see me, I want to be able to quickly and efficiently reach into the highly complex story that they bring with them, and to find a few ‘lever points’ at which it is going to be possible to make the biggest difference to their lives in the shortest possible time.

“Some of those lever points may be about ancient or recent experiences; but some may have to do with lifestyle factors, including: diet, exercise, sleep, living arrangements, life stressors, current relationships, family of origin relationships, and so on.”

Dr Jim Byrne – Doctor of Counselling

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That is a sacred mission – an honoured role – and one that weighs heavily upon me, and constantly generates within me a desire to learn more and more about philosophy, psychology, sociology, biology, neurology, and any other ology that could be an important factor in helping me to understand ‘this particular client’, at this particular point in their life story.

I don’t just want to be able to blindly find out, over indeterminate time, what makes ‘this client’ tick.

I want to be able to hear ‘the click’, the moment the ‘sticking point’ is revealed!

Jim Byrne – July 2020

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Contact us today, if you need:

Telephone counselling,

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Email counselling;

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and/or

Skype counselling

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If searching for us on Bing Maps, or Google Maps, then please search for 27 Keighley Road, Hebden Bridge, HX7 8HJ, UK. (And always include the postcode).

The reason for the current confusion about the location of our base is that most mapping systems have mismanaged the mapping of this area! (To be fair, it’s not an easy area to map!)

To download a set of directions for finding us, please click on the following link:

Directions to ABC Coaching and Counselling Services.***

Here is our location on Bing Maps: https://binged.it/2JAQEHv

If you want to write to us, then please use our official address, as used by the Post Office: 27 Wood End, Keighley Road, Hebden Bridge, HX7 8HJ, West Yorkshire, UK.

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For further information, please:

Telephone: 01422 843 629 (UK): 44 1422 843 629 (from outside the UK)

Or email us: Jim Byrne

or

Renata Taylor-Byrne

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A1, Jim and Nata counselling homepage

We follow a set of ethical codes which are described on our personal pages.  We help adults only, aged above 18 years, and preferably above 21 years of age.  We do not do any work with children.

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You can find us on Bing Maps, at this location: https://binged.it/2DkGJFw

Or on Google Maps, at this location: 27 Keighley Road, HX7 8HJ

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We also sell books, on our dedicated website at ABC Bookstore Online.***

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