ABC Coaching and Counselling Services
Our counselling service can help you with problems of anger, anxiety and depression counselling; stress management, anger management; and couples therapy; life coaching, lifestyle counselling, and attachment relationship problems
Hello and welcome to ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, in Hebden Bridge, and all over the world (apart from California!) via the telephone system, Skype and email exchanges.
This is the website of Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne.
Jim works as a Lifestyle coach/counsellor/psychotherapist; and Renata offers Lifestyle coaching/counselling, but not deep psychotherapy.
Both Jim and Renata are informed by the most comprehensive system of coaching/counselling in existence today (as at September 2019). This system deals with the body-brain-mind of the client, as well as their (current and earlier) physical and social environments.
But let them speak for themselves. What follows are introductory statements by Jim and Renata, which contextualize their approach to helping you:
Statement by Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling
Why should anybody consult me? Let us clarify what I offer, by contrast with other types of helpers:
Some counsellors – such as CBT therapists and Rational therapists (REBTers) – use the ABC model to represent your problems. The ‘A’ is an Activating Event, which is whatever happened to upset you.
The ‘B’ is your Belief System (or Automatic Thoughts).
And the ‘C’ is your Consequent emotions and behaviours: (how you felt and what you did).
They start from the erroneous position that “you are not upset by the things that happen to you!”
We strongly disagree with this position.
I consider that the ABC model is wholly inadequate as a model of your life situation. Instead I use my own Holistic SOR model, which says that when you are upset, some S (or Stimulus) is impacting your whole O (or Organism [meaning your body/brain/mind]); which produces a particular R (or Result [which is a set of feelings-thoughts-perceptions-actions]).
The important factor to consider is this: What exactly affects the ability of your Organism (or body/brain/mind) to cope with any particularly difficult Stimulus (or bad thing that happens to you)?
If you consulted me, I would be interested in the following factors, which come under the heading of ‘your Organism’:
(1) Your innate needs and tendencies;
(2) Your family history; ‘personality adaptations’; and ‘attachment style’;
(3) Your recent personal history;
(4) The kinds of emotive-cognitive patterns/schemas stored in your long-term memory (based on your lived experience) – which function as your ‘guides to action’;
(5) Narratives, stories and frames – and other storied and non-storied elements of experience; some of which might cause your emotions to become overly aroused; some of which might cause your emotions to become under-aroused; and some of which help to keep your emotions on an even keel;
(6) Your character and temperament;
(7) Whether your needs are being met; whether your goals are being achieved or thwarted; and your values in action;
(8) The foods that you eat on a regular basis, plus any supplements that you take (or should take); any medication you are taking; your exercise regime (if any); your sleep history; and your approach to relaxation;
(9) Ongoing environmental stressors; state of current relationship(s); and satisfaction with life stages; etc.; etc.
I can apply this SOR model to problems of anger, anxiety, depression, stress, panic, trauma, couple conflict, communication skills, personality adaptations, attachment styles, and so on. I can help with problems that you experience at home, in work or business, or in your social life more generally; as well as problems that you experience in your heart and mind when you are alone.
For more information about my services, please see Dr Jim’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Division.***
Statement by Renata Taylor-Byrne, Accredited Coach/Counsellor
Why should anybody consult me? This is what I can offer:
Firstly, I see my clients as people who want to get the most out of life, but sometimes they come slap bang up against problems that they don’t know how to solve.
That’s where I can show them the many ways that they can tackle the challenges they are facing, and help them to choose a solution that works for them.
The main kinds of problems with which I can help include the following:
(1) Managing their stress levels
(2) Managing their anger
(3) Developing their self-confidence and self-esteem
(4) Speaking in public, including presentations, examinations, or job interviews
(5) Using nutrition and exercise to control their anger, anxiety and depression
(6) Sleep problems, which flow from insufficient sleep, or sleep disruption
The most important things that I do for my clients are:
(1) Give them a sense of security and hope as they realise they have a powerful ally (who has many useful models and tools to share), to work with them on their current problems.
(2) Give them a safe space in which they are able to fully express their current dilemma, receive support and validation, and experiment with role–playing, visualisation or the trying out of problem-solving models.
(3) Share with them the latest research findings which can help the client in their current situation.
The main models that I use to make the problems that clients face easier to understand are as follows:
(1) The Skilled Helper model (from Gerard Egan): which helps the client to build a bridge from where they are now to where they want to get to;
(2) The WDEP model: which helps the client to identify mismatches between their goals and their behaviours.
(3) The Inner Coach model: Some clients can have a harsh and destructive ‘Inner critic’ which demands perfection of them. Together we pin down this part of the personality by identifying it as it shows up. The client learns to spot when this is happening. Our goal is to develop a moral, responsible, ‘Inner coach’ who is like an inner scientist and/or caring parent, who acts as a protector against the demands of their ‘Inner critic’ which always demands perfection.
(4) The Parent-Adult-Child model: I use TA (Transactional analysis) which is a way of understanding the different ways of being that people have developed as a result of their parental role models and messages that they received about life from their parents or significant others. Choosing a new approach to solving your current problem, which is different from the one you saw modelled by your parents, may be easier said than done. So we raise your awareness of more constructive paths that you can choose for your way forward.
(5) I also use Gestalt chair-work and some narrative approach.
The most important outcomes that people can expect from working with me on their lifestyle problems are:
(1) Greater self-confidence and self-assurance
(2) A stronger feeling of control over their lives and how they live.
(3) Reduced stress and anxiety
(4) Solutions to practical problems of everyday living
(3) Better health and happiness; and a higher level of energy, as a result of implementing lifestyle changes which may be recommended, as appropriate.
Two of my main books include:
For more information about my services, please see Renata’s Lifestyle Coaching/Counselling Division.***
Counselling and self-help books
We also research, write and publish a range of books related to counselling, coaching and self-help, and these can be viewed here:
Research on lifestyle counselling issues
We also operate the Institute for Emotive-Cognitive Embodied Narrative Therapy (E-CENT), which can be found here:
Free resources on counselling-related topics
We also offer some free resources on counselling related topics, which are helpful for counselling students and self-help enthusiasts. And we have lots of links pages.
For more, please take a look at our Site Map.***
If searching for us on Bing Maps, or Google Maps, then please search for 27 Keighley Road, Hebden Bridge, HX7 8HJ, UK.
The reason for the current confusion is that most mapping systems have mismanaged the mapping of this area! (To be fair, it’s not an easy area to map!)
Here is our location on Bing Maps: https://binged.it/2JAQEHv
If you want to write to us, then please use our official address, as used by the Post Office: 27 Wood End, Keighley Road, Hebden Bridge, HX7 8HJ, West Yorkshire, UK.
For further information, please:
Telephone: 01422 843 629 (UK): 44 1422 843 629 (from outside the UK)
Or email us: Jim Byrne
We follow a set of ethical codes which are described on our personal pages. We help adults only, aged above 18 years, and preferably above 21 years of age. We do not do any work with children.
You can find us on Bing Maps, at this location: https://binged.it/2DkGJFw
Or on Google Maps, at this location: 27 Keighley Road, HX7 8HJ
We also sell books, on our dedicated website at ABC Bookstore Online.***
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