ABC Coaching, Counselling and Psychotherapy Services
We can help you to be happier, healthier and more successful
Are you feeling angry, anxious or depressed?
If so, we can help you.
Do you have problems of conflict, or communications difficulties, in your relationship(s)? Or are you unhappy about your situation at home or at work?
All of these kinds of problems can be resolved, with the right kind of guidance, and commitment on your part to make improvements in your life.
Our approach to helping you involves a review of every aspect of your life – your lifestyle – including diet, exercise, and sleep; relaxation, and work/life balance; relationships (in the present and the past – including ‘attachment style’, childhood experiences, and your ‘inner couple’ model); communication style (passive, aggressive, or assertive); stress factors; self-confidence and self-esteem; and couple conflict (including ‘conflict style’).
The end result is that you learn to think, feel and act more effectively, thus helping you to manage your life and your relationships more effectively, at home and in work. And you become healthier and happier.
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This is the web site of Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne. We are a well-established counselling and coaching service, with lots of testimonials from satisfied customers. (See the details on our personal pages).
This is our coaching/counselling space in Hebden Bridge
# For further information about Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, please click this link: Dr Jim’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Division.***
# For further information about Renata Taylor-Byrne – Psychologist, Coach-Counsellor – please click this link: Renata’s Lifestyle Coaching and Counselling Division***.
Telephone counselling services
If you live too far from Hebden Bridge, near Halifax, West Yorkshire, you can phone one of us, on 44 1422 843 629, from any part of the English-speaking world, for a telephone consultation.
Or you can consult Jim (but not Renata) over Skype.
Written counselling resources
Or you can find out how to manage your diet, nutrition and physical activity level.***
Or you can go deeper into the nature of Lifestyle Counselling for diet, exercise, sleep and mind-management.***
Take a look at the full Counselling Books Page.***
Or take a look at our Site Map for further information or services, links, etc.
Consult us for stress management, anger management, couple’s therapy, confidence building, self-esteem issues, marriage guidance, life coaching, lifestyle coaching, or problems with anxiety, depression, panic; and so on.
Counselling and therapy come in many forms. And *Lifestyle Counselling* is the growing edge of counselling and psychotherapy today…
An informational post by Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling
Most counsellors were trained in one school of counselling psychology. We then spend years adding various ‘loan elements’ to that system, and modifying it in the light of our ‘clinical experience’.
Counselling and psychotherapy have been morphing and evolving since their earliest emergence. There are now more than 400 forms of counselling and therapy in existence; and those forms are (probably) subdivided further by the number of individuals practising each form (since it is arguable that no two counsellors practice *identical systems*. All counsellors probably practice variations on one or more of the main theories – in a highly individualised form). And even as I write, the drift continues…
Imagine a person who decides they need counselling, and that they need to ‘interview’ three counsellors to find the one who suits them best. This client then meets, individually, with three counsellors, and makes the following notes:
Counsellor No.1 concentrates on early childhood influences on personality formation, and how those influences can be detected in the way the client responds to environmental stressors or problems today.
Counsellor No.2 concentrates on the present moment; on how the client processes (cognitively and emotively) their current problems or stressors.
Counsellor No.3 uses a long checklist of potential influences upon the client’s happiness and health: from early childhood; various transitions; developmental challenges; and current stressors and lifestyle choices (in terms of diet, exercise, sleep, relaxation, stress management strategies, etc.); plus their philosophical stance in life; and their life script, or story.
If you were this client, which counsellor would you choose to work with: No.1? No.2? Or No.3? And why?
We have written a book on the subject of *Lifestyle Counselling*, which teaches any practitioner of talk therapy how to incorporate elements of the lifestyle approach of Counsellor No.3 into their current practices. It provides the necessary information about the kinds of foods that damage mental health and emotional wellbeing; plus those that improve the general functioning of the body-brain-mind of the client. It also provides guidance on physical exercise approaches, and sleep hygiene practices that support good mental health.
Counsellors who have read this book have commented that they benefited enormously from knowing these new areas of knowledge about the healthy and unhealthy functioning of the body-brain-mind of their clients. To read more about this book, please go to *Lifestyle Counselling and Coaching for the Whole Person.***
Some general dietary guidelines for physical and mental health
An informational post by Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling
Some foods cause physical and mental health problems; and some foods promote good health and emotional wellbeing. It is obviously important to know what those foods are, otherwise we cannot live well; and we cannot advise others on how to maintain their health and happiness.
If we can generalise at all, it is advisable to eat lots of fresh vegetables and fruit: seven or eight portions per day (mainly vegetables, and much less fruit [because fruit contains fruit sugars, which can raise your blood glucose levels to problematical levels]!)
Many experts recommend the Mediterranean diet. Some recommend the Okinawa diet. Or the Nordic diet. And some the Paleo diet, though we have reservations about the Paleo/ Atkins/ Ketogenic diets, which will be discussed later.
The safest way to begin is probably to follow the UK National Food Guide (or the US equivalent ‘food pyramid’), or our variation on that set of guidelines. (See the start of section 3(a) of Part 1, above).
Eating organic wholefoods is one way of minimizing the chemical pollutants that get into our bodies and impair our ability to function healthily in the face of the pressures and strains of daily life, according to Bart Cunningham, PhD.[i] Patrick Holford (2010) recommends that we eat (gluten-free) wholegrains, lentils, beans, nuts, seeds, fresh fruit and vegetables, and avoid refined, white and overcooked foods. (But we think he should have emphasised fish and vegetables before grains, lentils and beans. [Fish twice per week is probably optimal for most people. Some might be able to handle three times. But others need to be careful they do not provoke an allergic reaction to fish!]).
There is also recent research which suggests a link between trans-fats (including hydrogenated fats in processed foods) and aggression, irritability and impatience.[ii]
But which fruits and vegetables should we eat? Patrick Holford (2010) recommends dark green, leafy and root vegetables. He lists spinach, carrots, broccoli, sweet potatoes, green beans, and Brussels sprouts. He favours eating (as much as possible) raw or lightly cooked. Salad vegetables make an energizing breakfast. Holford suggests, also, that we choose berries, apples, melon, pears, or citrus fruits. He suggests moderation in the consumption of bananas, because of the high sugar content. For this reason, we should also limit out consumption of dried fruits (to something like 6-10 raisins or sultanas, etc., per meal). Kiwis and blueberries are low GI (Glycaemic index, or sugar content). Variety is the key. Keep the sugar content low, especially if you are particularly sensitive to fruit and vegetable sugars. (See the FodMaps diet, and the Anti-Candida diet).
The Stress Management Society gives the following advice: “If you want a strong nervous system, boost your intake of vitamins B, C and E, together with minerals magnesium and zinc. The best source of these nutrients is from food, rather than supplements. So eat a balanced diet of meat, nuts, seeds, fresh fruit and vegetables and oily fish. If you need to snack during the day, try pumpkin or sunflower seeds and fruit, particularly bananas. Fresh organic food is the best source. If you can’t get fresh, frozen vegetables are a reasonable alternative as much of their nutritional content is retained.” [iii] (However, it may be that a low-meat, high vegetable, moderate carbohydrate diet is best: Greger (2016), page 67 and 201-203).
We suggest you follow most of the advice of the Stress Management Society, except for the supplementation of vitamins and minerals; and it’s probably best to keep your meat consumption low. Unless you are on a wholly organic diet, your food will be largely denatured and devoid of much nutritional value; therefore you need to use vitamin and mineral supplements of a good, natural-source quality.
It seems to be important to keep your meat consumption low – not just for red meat, but also for white meats. Meats seem to increase the omega-6 fatty acids (including arachidonic acid) in the body (perhaps because they are mostly grain fed, instead of grass fed). Dr Michael Greger writes that: “…Maybe the pro-inflammatory compound arachidonic acid found in animal products can ‘adversely impact mental health via a cascade of neuro-inflammation’.”[iv]
And Greger also states that (non-organic) chicken and eggs are also a problem because of their omega-6 (arachidonic acid) content! So perhaps you should eat those foods in moderation. (And only the organic variety, because grass-fed animals are high in omega-3 fatty acids, while grain fed animals are high in omega-6).
For more information, please take a look at this page of information: *How to Control Your Anger, Anxiety and Depression, Using nutrition and physical activity***.
[i] Cunningham, J. B. (2001) The Stress Management Sourcebook. Second edition. Los Angeles: Lowell House.
[ii] Yu, W. (2012) High trans-fat diet predicts aggression: People who eat more hydrogenated oils are more aggressive. Scientific American Mind, July 2012. Available online: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/high-trans-fat-diet-predicts-aggresion/
[iv] Dr Michael Greger quotes the following paper in defence of his view that vegetarian diets are better for emotional health:
Beezhold, B. L., Johnston, C. S., & Daigle, D. R. (2010) ‘Vegetarian diets are associated with healthy mood states: a cross-sectional study in Seventh Day Adventist adults’. Nutrition Journal, 9, 26. http://doi.org/10.1186/1475-2891-9-26
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, 27 Wood End, Hebden Bridge, HX7 8HJ, UK. Established since November 1998.
If you want to write to us, then please use our official address above, as used by the Post Office: (27 Wood End, Hebden Bridge, HX7 8HJ, West Yorkshire, UK).
But if searching for us on Google Maps, try 27 Keighley Road. (Because Google Maps mismanaged the mapping of this area!)
To find us on Google Maps, please click this link: ABC Coaching on Google Maps.***
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Telephone: 01422 843 629 (UK): 44 1422 843 629 (from outside the UK)
Or email us: Jim Byrne
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