Life Coaching Hebden Bridge

Updated on 7th December 2019

Life Coaching/Counselling Hebden Bridge

Hebden Bridge Coaching and Counselling Service


Nata-Lifestyle-coach8Welcome to my counselling/coaching/mentoring service for adults who want to work on some aspect of their problems of daily living.

The most important things that I do for my clients are:

(1) Give them a sense of security and hope as they realise they have a powerful ally (who has many useful models and tools to share), to work with them on their current problems.

(2) Give them a safe space in which they are able to fully express their current dilemma, receive support and validation, and experiment with role–playing, visualisation or the trying out of problem-solving models.

(3) Share with them the latest research findings which can help the client in their current situation.

The main models that I use to make the problems that clients face easier to understand are as follows:

(1) The Skilled Helper model (from Gerard Egan): which helps the client to build a bridge from where they are now to where they want to get to;

Egan model

(2) The WDEP model: which helps the client to identify mismatches between their goals and their behaviours.

(3) The Inner Coach model: Some clients can have a harsh and destructive ‘Inner critic’ which demands perfection of them. Together we pin down this part of the personality by identifying it as it shows up. The client learns to spot when this is happening. Our goal is to develop a moral, responsible, ‘Inner coach’ who is like an inner scientist and/or caring parent, who acts as a protector against the demands of their ‘Inner critic’ which always demands perfection.

(4) The Parent-Adult-Child model: I use TA (Transactional analysis) which is a way of understanding the different ways of being that people have developed as a result of their parental role models and messages that they received about life from their parents or significant others.  Choosing a new approach to solving your current problem, which is different from the one you saw modelled by your parents, may be easier said than done. So we raise your awareness of more constructive paths that you can choose for your way forward.

(5) I also use Gestalt chair-work and some narrative approach.

The most important outcomes that people can expect from working with me on their lifestyle problems are:

Happy family(1) Greater self-confidence and self-assurance

(2) A stronger feeling of control over their lives and how they live.

(3) Reduced stress and anxiety

(4) Solutions to practical problems of everyday living

(3) Better health and happiness; and a higher level of energy, as a result of implementing lifestyle changes which may be recommended, as appropriate.


Two of my main books include:

Safeguard your sleep and reap the rewards.***

How to control your anger, anxiety and depression, using nutrition and physical activity

Nata-Lifestyle-coach8If you want to improve your life, then I can help you!

Are you stuck and need help to find a new way forward in life?

Are you experiencing problems of: Stress? Sleep disruption? Lack of energy, possibly related to diet and nutrition?

Have you lost direction or focus in life, and need help to refine your goals, or to discipline yourself to work towards those goals?

Do you want to exercise but can never make it happen? Or is your problem some other ingrained habit?

Do you want more self-confidence and greater self-esteem; or to be able to stick up for yourself better, and communicate more easily and powerfully with others?

Or do you want to improve your public-speaking skills?

If you are grappling with any of the problems listed above, or related problems, then I can help you.


My name is Renata Taylor-Byrne, and I’ve been involved in coaching, counselling, and personal development for many years.

Nata-Lifestyle-coach8To get more information, or to set up an appointment, please call me today,

On 01422 843 629 (from inside the UK);


Or 44 1422 843 629 (from abroad).


Or email me on


If you live too far from Hebden Bridge to consult me face-to-face, or if you’d prefer to consult me over the phone or via email, then that can be arranged.  For information about telephone coaching/counselling, please click this link: Telephone Coaching/Counselling with Renata.***

Or if you’d prefer to explore Email Coaching and Counselling, then please click the following page: Email Coaching/Counselling with Renata.***


I have taught psychology, stress management, nutrition, counselling skills, and self-management strategies since the 1980’s.

I can quickly develop a strong, supportive and empowering relationship with you, as my client. I help you to feel safe; to unburden yourself; and to begin to plan changes in your life, to address your immediate goals, specific problems or emotional difficulties.

Learning new ways of behaving, or new self-management habits, is very worthwhile and can really improve your relationships, your quality of life, and success in your working life.

Here’s a little video introduction to my system of coaching/counselling:


Nata-Lifestyle-coach8To get more information, or to set up an appointment, please call me today,

On 01422 843 629 (from inside the UK);


Or 44 1422 843 629 (from abroad).


Or email me on


What is coach/counselling about?

“Clients come to coaching because they want something to change. Essentially they want to be more effective. The role of the coach is to help them achieve this increased effectiveness”.

Jenny Rogers



What do you need?

If you’re struggling with problems to do with…

* handling unexpected or demanding changes in your life circumstances

* changing one of your habits, or starting a new one

* improving your sleep, physical exercise, or diet and nutrition

* reducing your feelings of being under pressure

* clarifying your thinking or feelings

* achieving important goals; or:

* working to change a difficult emotional or relationship problem…

…then I can help you with these and similar challenges.


Nata-Lifestyle-coach8To get more information, or to set up an appointment, please call me today,

On 01422 843 629 (from inside the UK);


Or 44 1422 843 629 (from abroad).


Or email me on


Here are the things that I can offer you:

I offer a safe space in which to talk about your problems, to get advice and guidance, to learn some new helpful strategies, and generally to work out a way forward that suits you.  I particularly help individuals with problems of self-assertion, self-esteem, self-confidence; self-assertion in communication and negotiation situations; stress management strategies, goal setting and persistent goal pursuit; habit change; and much more besides.


Here is a more specific breakdown of my approach – I show you:

First: Problem-solving models that you can use for the rest of your life: I teach my clients one or more of a broad range of problem-solving techniques that I have discovered and used over the years. Knowing the right technique to use for different situations is an important skill. Not every problem can be solved by one universal problem-solving technique, just as a toolkit that only contains a hammer is useless, except when dealing with nails.

Second: Assertiveness strategies that will make your life easier:

If you don’t develop the skills of boundary setting with others, people can take advantage of you. Blocking attempts from other people, who are trying to treat you as less than equal, or to exploit you, is a crucial part of maintaining your personal health, and psychological well-being.

Many individuals who I meet do not realize that they are responsible for managing the boundary of their personal life – their personal domain.

They don’t know that they have to perform the role of the ‘Sheriff of Dodge City’ (their own city, in fact!).  They are waiting for the world to ‘get fair’, so they can be treated in the manner to which they know they are entitled. Perhaps this applies to you as well?

These attitudes arose in your family of origin, as described by Max Frost:

“Our lives are embedded in relationships with others, and our self-belief, self-esteem and self-image arise out of our mental pictures of those relationships”

So, if the patterns of relating that we learned in our family of origin are not serving us well, then we have to change them.  But nobody ever shows up to do this job for you, and so I teach you how to manage your own boundary, and to defend yourself in your interpersonal relationships, at home and in work.



Another way of describing how you need to protect your personal boundaries is this:  Part of becoming a strong person is to learn to become your own ‘bouncer’, and to block unwanted domination attempts by others, who may attempt to use oppressive behaviour or destructive criticism against you.

My clients quickly learn new techniques for blocking unfair criticism and oppressive behaviour.

Third: I show you how you can control your stress levels: It’s important to understand the messages that come from your body when you are experiencing stress and strain. If you don’t know how your nervous system operates – and tries to communicate with you – (to protect you from all the hassles you get in your daily life), then you won’t be able to stay strong and resilient, and in control of yourself.

I’ve made a detailed study of stress, nutrition, exercise and sleep problems, and how to manage and resolve them.  Many of my clients have been amazed that the real source of their stress problem was not what they thought it was; and they also find it helpful to know that stress is a two-element problem, only one of which is normally within your control.  Once you understand the components (of that element which is within your control), you can better manage your physical and emotional wellbeing in a difficult and stressful world.


Fourth: I show you how you can change an unwanted habit, or create a new one: for examples, in the areas of diet, exercise or sleep management…

We humans are creatures of habit, and it is very hard to get rid of our bad habits, very easy to learn new bad habits; and very hard to learn new good habits!  The secrets of learning new good habits are well known to me. Here is one of them:


If you don’t know the facts behind changing your habits, and the simple rules for achieving habit change, then you’ll give yourself a hard time when you succumb to temptation and repeat your old bad habits. But that is unfair to yourself; and unrealistic! I have made a number of studies of how to change ingrained habits. I have used these ideas in my own life; and also helped my clients to be most efficient in changing their unwelcome or self-damaging habits.


Fifth: You can learn to control your inner critic – which blocks your self-belief – with my help:

Sometimes our problems are outside of ourselves.  But sometimes they are within us – voices from the past – maps of the world we learned from parents who did not know they were misleading us.  Decisions and judgements we made which no longer serve us well.  If we combine all those self-undermining elements together, we can call it our ‘inner critic’.  Our inner critic blames us when we slip up; damns us when we make a mistake; underestimates our ability; derides our reasonable ambitions; and can make us very unhappy.  It can talk us out of trying to change!

Here is the way Max Frost refers to this inner critic:

“If you had a friend who talked to you the way you talk to yourself, would you hang out with them?”


INNER-CRITIC-IMAGE-FOR-WEBPAGEIf you don’t learn to manage your inner critic you will be restricting yourself to a life dominated by the views and values of other people. (Our inner critic is created out of the family and culture that we come from. It begins as an important element of our Controlling Parent ego state, which provides us with appropriate guilt and shame, as moral emotions.  But it can grow into an unrealistic bully, and demand perfection, in one form or another, from us; and it can be very cruel to us). So, it’s important to keep our moral values, but not to indulge in inappropriate guilt and shame, or self-denigration, put-downs, etc.

Our inner critic weakens us, and allows us to be dominated by others. I have developed techniques for bringing the inner critic into conscious awareness, and bringing it under reasonable control, so we do not beat ourselves up when we perform less than perfectly in the world.


Sixth: I have also studied and practised the top ways in which my clients can reconnect with themselves and their creative abilities and help them to discover their life’s purpose.


Our materialistic culture distracts people from their unique talents and the contribution they could make to life.  Knowing how to express your unique talents, and the full flowering of your personality, is very satisfying.  It can also help you to move closer to finding your own life purpose, which is an important stage in your personal development.

Nata-Lifestyle-coach8To get more information, or to set up an appointment, please call me today,

On 01422 843 629 (from inside the UK);


Or 44 1422 843 629 (from abroad).


Or email me on


My approach

I practice a form of coaching/counselling called Lifestyle Coaching and Holistic Counselling.

This overlaps all other forms of talk-therapy and coaching guidance, but it also significantly includes the latest research on the connection between the brain and the guts, and the role that gut health plays in sound emotional wellbeing (which some people call good ‘mental health’). It also includes insights from research on diet, physical exercise and stress.  It is often said that an army ‘marches on its stomach’, and it is true that successful individuals, in every walk of life, manage their lifestyle in such a way as to maintain healthy diet, guts, muscles, sleep patterns, and so on.  And when they don’t, they don’t last long!


The benefits of the service I offer

Here is a short video clip in which I explain some of the benefits of my services:


Individuals who have been through my Lifestyle coaching/ counselling process tell me that what they got included:

(1) A listening ear; empathy; and moral support;

(2) A teaching/learning experience, including insights into a broad range of research studies that help them to better manage their time, space, relationships, health, wealth and happiness;

(3) Acceptance and reassurance – including a secure base, from which they learned to be more secure in their real-world relationships;

(4) Appropriate advice, which fitted in well with their needs, wants, desires and goals;

(5) And help to become a better problem solver in every area of life.


I can help you to optimise your functioning in the world, at home and in work, for a better, happier, more successful life.

I have seen my clients’ confidence grow; their sense of self strengthen; their sense of purpose clarify; their stated goal(s) achieved or progressing well, and their engagement in the world become happier and healthier.

If you need my help, please contact me.  If you don’t live near Hebden Bridge, then you can contact me by telephone.

Or you can email me to set up an appointment, via the telephone, or face-to-face.

That’s all for now.


Renata Taylor-Byrne BSc (Hons) Psychol, DipSM, Dip.CBT, MAC, CCC.Reg

Lifestyle Coach-Counsellor


To get more information, or to set up an appointment, please call me today,

On 01422 843 629 (from inside the UK);


Or 44 1422 843 629 (from abroad).


Or email me on


Nata-Lifestyle-coach8For more information about me, please see the About Renata Taylor-Byrne – Lifestyle Coach page.***

For details of my fees, please go to my Schedule of Fees page.***


PS: I also offer telephone coaching-counselling all over the world via the telephone system.


Also, please take a look at my blog: Renata’s Coaching Blog.***


 About Dr Jim Byrne   About Renata Taylor-Byrne   Dr Jim’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Divison
 Renata’s Lifestyle Coaching and Counselling Division  Benefits of E-CENT Counselling ⊕ Books on E-CENT counselling and related subjects
⊕ Contact us – how to ⊕ Free Resources ⊕ How to find us, in Hebden Bridge
   Dr Jim’s counselling blog  Renata’s coaching blog ⊕ Links pages
⊕ Site Map for ABC Coaching and Counselling Services ⊕ Visit the Institute for Emotive-Cognitive Embodied Narrative Therapy (E-CENT) ⊕ ABC Newsletter



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