Couples Therapy Hebden Bridge

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Couples therapy in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, HX7…

And all over the world, via Skype, or Zoom, or by telephone

“This service is a unique innovation in the field of couples therapy and marriage guidance”.

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Updated on 28th September 2022, by Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling and well-known couples therapist.

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My approach to couples therapy

Nata and Jim's wedding day005Hello and welcome to this page about my couple’s therapy service based in Hebden Bridge, near Halifax, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ. Or via Skype for English-speakers all over the world.

My name is Jim Byrne. I have a doctoral degree in counselling from the University of Manchester, UK; and almost twenty-five years experience of couples therapy. I currently work with clients (individuals and couples) all over the world, via the telephone system and Skype/ webcam. (As well as seeing face-to-face clients in Hebden Bridge).

I have also written two books on Couple Relationships, based on my research and practice.

Couples therapy and marriage guidance counselling can have a dramatic effect upon the happiness level of couple relationships, provided both parties are willing to work on the issues that are causing their problems.

Modern couple’s therapy has become more and more based on scientific research by creative practitioners like Dr John Gottman. My own approach to couples therapy is based on a fusion of several pre-existing traditions, including The Gottman Process; Transactional Analysis; Gestalt Therapy (Inner Couple Model); Personality Adaptations; Attachment theory; and Philosophy of love and relationship.

cropped-dr-jim-counsellor-therapist-hebden-bridge.jpgMy approach is practical, and involves formal and informal assessment; face to face meetings; a detailed analytical report; and follow-up informational handouts. (Please see the detailed description further down this page). I prefer to see one marital or cohabiting partner at a time, because that is much less fraught with emotional conflict.  I also ask you to complete six or more questionnaires to find out what is going on at deep levels of your mind; and in your daily life; plus your early family history.

I get lots of testimonials from clients, testifying to the positive results that they gained from consulting me.  See Unsolicited Client Testimonials, here.***

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If you would like to consult me, please read the information below, and then email or phone me to start the process rolling.

Best wishes,

Jim

Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling

(Almost twenty-five years’ experience of couple’s therapy)

A1, Jim and Nata counselling homepage

Jim and Renata, after 40+ years of happy coupling – 36 happily married!

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My Enhanced Main Counselling and Psychotherapy Service – which includes:

My Updated, Enhanced, Main Service was updated on 5th August 2022.  The main changes are a result of feedback from current clients, who wanted a reduction in the intensity of the “homework” component of this service. Here is the revised structure:

Formal assessment, counselling, report call-out1 – Formal assessment questionnaires – (Function: To collect relevant data about some potential sources of your current problem[s]. Normally between four and seven questionnaires will be sent by me to you, usually as email attachments; and I may ask some supplementary questions once I’ve seen your answers. The subject of each questionnaire is determined by the problem[s] you wish to address in our work together).

2 – A counselling meeting of up to sixty minutes (which is mainly more assessment, at our first meeting. [If you opt for a second meeting, then we get to do more therapy than assessment during the second meeting]);

3 – An analytical report. (This includes: what happened at our meeting; my observations, reflections and conclusions; plus my assessment of your questionnaire answers; plus a customized list of written materials which I will send, at fortnightly intervals, over a twelve or fourteen week period). I will send my analytical report to you within seven to ten days of our meeting. (When my analysis is particularly extensive [in terms of numbers of pages], which is not uncommon, I sometimes send it in two or three smaller chunks, over a period of several weeks!)

4 – My report (or the first instalment of my report) is followed by five or six informational documents (called psycho-educational [or bibliotherapy] handouts), which will teach you the knowledge and skills you need in order to begin to resolve the problem or problems we discussed in our meeting, [plus problems or developmental needs identified by the assessment questionnaires]. These documents will be sent to you at intervals of two weeks, over a twelve or fourteen week period).

Those four elements, above, are collectively called a “single package” of my Enhanced Main Service; and I normally recommend that you sign up for a “double package”, which involves repeating the above processes again – (at the end of the twelve or fourteen week period of the first package) – but with more time for therapy during our second meeting.

You can repeat this process as often as you need to. I estimate that close to 50% of people will only need a single package to resolve their most pressing problems. Some will require a double package. And some will need more than one double package, depending on the complexity and difficulty of their problems.

After the first one or two packages of my Main Service, you might want to switch to my (Almost) Pure Talk Therapy service, to keep your costs down; or because you have had enough documentary follow-up, and mainly want to talk about your thoughts, feelings, behaviours, and/or relationships.

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Fees for my Enhanced Main Service

With effect from Monday 19th September 2022, the following fees will apply:

– A single package will cost just £400.00p GBP; and:

– A double package will cost just £700.00p GBP – (if it is booked as a double package, and paid in advance; resulting in a saving of £100.00p GBP.

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Recent Client Testimonial

♣ “Hi Jim, I’m very grateful for your latest report, which is highly detailed and analytical, as always. The content about the (personal details about my relationship) is fascinating. I think your analysis is brilliant, and it sums up so much about my life that I could never have put into words. … Thanks again…”

M.H., Wigan, Lancs. (Three “single packages” of my main service, via the telephone; followed by detailed reports).

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If you wish to sign up for this service, please email drjwbyrne@gmail.com

Or telephone Jim on 01422 843 629 (from inside the UK)

Or 44 1422 843 629 (from outside the UK).

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My (Almost) Pure Talk Therapy Service

Pure talk therapy with dr of counsellingThis service is for clients who do not learn well from written materials.

1 – First, I ask you to complete a maximum of two questionnaires;

2 – Then we meet for a sixty minute counselling session, face-to-face in Hebden Bridge; or via Skype or the telephone system.

3 – I sometimes send a very brief report after our meeting (if I feel compelled to do so, for the sake of the client’s needs); and I sometimes send a document or two with relevant information (but by no means always!) When I do send such documents, they normally refer back to the results of the assessment questionnaires, and include insights into the client’s personality and lifestyle self-management.

4. End of the (almost) pure talk therapy process.

Some of my talk therapy clients have attended for one or two sessions; but some have been consulting me for more than five years!

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Fees for my Almost Pure Talk Therapy service

With effect from Monday 19th September 2022, the fee for a single session of this service will just £300.00p. (If you pay in advance for two sessions the combined cost will be just £500.00p GBP – which is a saving of £100.00p GBP).

Once you’ve completed your first single or double session of Almost Pure Talk Therapy, the session fee will reduce to £240.00.

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Unsolicited client testimonial:

“Hi Jim, I’ve learned a lot from working through all the materials you’ve been sending to me over the past few weeks.  As we approach the end of the fourth week, I would like to make an appointment for a second session. … I think this service is great value for money, and your fees are well justified!”

V.F., Bradford, West Yorkshire. (One session of my main service, for personal and professional difficulties; including marriage problems).

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cropped-abc-coaching-counselling-charles-2019.jpgPlease phone me or email me to discuss setting up an appointment. I will pencil you into my diary.

Telephone: 01422 843 629 (from inside the UK)

Telephone: 44 1422 843 629 (from outside the UK)

Email address: Doctor Jim Byrne.***

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Additional information

Happy relationships are good for us; and couples counselling and therapy can help

There is a lot of research to support the conclusion that a good relationship will keep us happy and healthy.  The Harvard Grant Study – which is one of the most important sources of this conclusion – is summarized by Dr Robert Waldinger, who currently leads the study, like this:

“The clearest message we get from this 75 year study is that: good relationships keep us happy and healthier, period (or full stop!) … social connections are really good for us. … loneliness kills. People who are more socially connected to family, to friends and community, are happier, healthier, and they live longer. And loneliness turns out to be toxic.  High conflict marriages without much affection are very bad for our health – worse than getting divorced”.

Waldinger, quoted in Daniel Levitin’s book, The Changing Mind: A neuroscientist’s guide to ageing well.  Page 376.

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The research evidence shows that having a good relationship is a greater source of happiness than business success or personal wealth.

A happy marriage or couple relationship can only exist on one of two bases: Either…

1. You learned how to have a happy relationship in your family of origin, by copying your parents’ happy relationship;

Or:

2. You worked very hard, as an adult, to learn the knowledge and skills that are needed for successful couple communication based on loving-kindness, equality, forgiveness and peaceful cohabitation.

It cannot happen by an act of sheer will!  Or a strong desire. Nor can it happen because you try to manipulate it into existence.

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“A no-effort relationship is a doomed relationship, not a great relationship.  It takes work to communicate accurately and it takes work to expose and resolve conflicting hopes and beliefs.  It doesn’t mean there is no (sense that) ‘they lived happily ever after,’ but it’s more like ‘they worked happily ever after.’”

Carol Dweck

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♣ “Dear Jim, Last Christmas I thought my marriage (to ‘Len’ [not his real name!]) was over.  … But, with your help, we’ve managed to rediscover the love we always had for each other, over many, many years, up to recently.  … It’s like going back in time, to happier days of love.  I am happier now than at any time in the past four years of strife”.

M.T., Howarth, West Yorkshire. (Four sessions of couples’ therapy for problems of relationship conflict and a drift towards separation).

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Couple in therapy

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My most popular service is my Enhanced Main Service:

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Unsolicited client testimonial:

“Hi Jim, I’ve learned a lot from working through all the materials you’ve been sending to me over the past few weeks.  As we approach the end of the fourth week, I would like to make an appointment for a second session. … I think this service is great value for money, and your fees are well justified!”

V.F., Bradford, West Yorkshire. (One session of my main service, for personal and professional difficulties; including marriage problems).

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cropped-abc-coaching-counselling-charles-2019.jpgPlease phone me or email me to discuss setting up an appointment. I will pencil you into my diary. Your fee will be due 72 hours before we are due to meet.

Telephone: 01422 843 629 (from inside the UK)

Telephone: 44 1422 843 629 (from outside the UK)

Email address: Doctor Jim Byrne.***

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♣ “Good Morning Jim, I hope you and your wife are keeping well in these challenging times.  I wanted to drop you a line to give you some great news.  Frank and I have had a real break-through in our relationship.  He recently began to demonstrate his love for me in ways that had not happened for years. I was blown away! So here is my big thank you, and I will always be grateful to you for your great guidance and therapy.”

K.D., Calderdale, West Yorkshire. (Four sessions of couples therapy).

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♣ Hi Jim, I think you’re a genius, the way you helped me with my anxiety, my relationship problems, and even my gut problem.  Your guidance and advice were invaluable. Nobody had been able to help me, up to seeing you.  Of course, I still have occasional low days, but most of the time I feel wonderfully well. I just cannot find the words to express my gratitude to you for the fact that I now feel at peace with my very difficult family background, and my recent relationship problems, and my anxiety and panic.  I am much more aware of my feelings and how to manage them. I have never felt so content and at peace in my life before, and it’s a great feeling.  I am a changed person because of your wisdom. Thank you so very much.

N.P., Halifax, West Yorkshire. (Fourteen sessions of face-to-face counselling for anxiety, attachment issues, family-of-origin problems, and couples therapy).

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For an illustration of the kinds of reports I’ve produced in the past, please see Sample Report Structures.***

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Receiving your reports, for the Enhanced Main Service only…

Maxi-service Report CoverWithin 7 to 10 days of our meeting, I will send you my individualized report (or at least Chunk One, if it is too big to do in one chunk) . When a couple signs up for this process, each of you will receive a personal report, which will be confidential to you.  I will not share your report with your partner.Report as personal insight

My reports will provide the basis for you (and your partner, where appropriate) to come to understand yourselves better – especially the dynamics that cause major problems in your relationship – and to make the personal changes that will move your relationship forward into a positive, rewarding, loving and enjoyable future.

For an illustration of the kinds of reports I’ve produced in the past, please see Sample Report Structure.***

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♣ “Dear Jim, We are very pleased with the result we got from the couples therapy sessions we had with you. Our problems are now largely resolved, and we are enjoying our relationship”.

O.A., Bradford, West Yorkshire. (Three sessions of couples therapy; combined with four sessions of individual therapy for one member of this couple).

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Staying together or splitting amicably

Of course, some couples will decide that the evidence of significant incompatibilities warrants a separation/divorce, rather than a repairing/rebuilding of their relationship; but armed with my reports they are more likely to achieve an amicable separation, which avoids exorbitant legal fees; and also sidesteps the heartache of protracted angry recriminations.

Whether you end up rebuilding your relationship, or taking it apart in a civilized, loving manner, which minimizes stress for all the parties involved (including any children!), I would consider either outcome to be a step up from the often hateful, vengeful, recriminatory splits that make life miserable for everybody.

Follow-up therapy sessions

Rewiring brain for happy relationships

After you have completed any of the above services, you may then want further support in the form of ongoing face-to-face’; Skype; or Telephone conversations.  At that point, the cost of further counselling sessions will be as follows:

One session of Pure Talk Therapy will cost you £240; but you can book two sessions at a time for just £380.00 for the two. This represents a saving of £100.00 GBP.

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If you’d like me to help you with your couple relationship, then please phone me on 01422 843 629, to set up a pencilled-in appointment (for yourself, and/or your partner).

Or 44 1422 843 629 from outside the UK.

Or email me at Dr Jim Byrne

For more information about me, please go to About Dr Jim Byrne.***

Or take a look at a collection of unsolicited testimonials that were sent to me by former and/or current clients.***

ABC Coaching Counselling Charles 2019Dr Jim Byrne

Doctor of Counselling

ABC Counselling and Psychotherapy Services

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♣ Verbal feedback: “Every time we come to see you, our relationship gets better and better. We did not expect this. We have now reached a kind of comfortable plateau, and we don’t know if things will get any better. But we have talked about it, and we don’t know what you said or what you did to help us to get to this much nicer place in our relationship”.

Dr.A.D, North Halifax, West Yorkshire. UK. (Five sessions of face to face couples therapy).

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Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne, happily married since 1986 – and happily coupled since 1980. (And we went through couples therapy in 1984!)

Confidential reportIf you think it would be difficult to get your partner to participate in couples therapy, then please read the following advice on the Gottman Institute website: 5 Steps to Inspire Your Partner to Join You in Attending Couples Therapy.***

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