Understanding and managing stress
By Dr Jim Byrne
10th January 2019
Introduction to stress management counselling, with Dr Jim Byrne
Stress is not ‘all in the mind’. It is a real bodily state of over-arousal, which can race your heart and churn your guts; and that makes you feel frightened and panicky. It is a state of over-arousal that can be reduced when you understand how to manage the mental and physical triggers that allow stress to get out of control.
Stress is aroused when an external stimulus (such as a loud noise, or a hairy animal) causes your body to switch on your so-called sympathetic nervous system, sometimes referred to as your “fight or flight response”.
Once the threat or other source of arousal has passed, it is normal for the other side of the autonomic nervous system – the parasympathetic nervous system – to kick in, and return your body to a relaxed state.
Stress problems arise when this parasympathetic compensation does not occur, normally because your perception is that the threat/ danger/ frustration etc., has not gone away. Your body is still aroused for action, and you are probably (non-consciously) “signalling yourself” habit-based perceptions – or pattern-matching your situation to the wrong response – which keeps your nervous system overly-aroused. Therefore, if you want to get your stress problem under control, it is important to know how to switch your sympathetic nervous system off, which amounts to the same thing as switching your parasympathetic nervous system on.
There are several techniques that you can learn which will do that, and I can teach them to you.
Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling
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Stress Management Counselling and Psychotherapy – with Dr Jim Byrne
Feelings of Stress Destroy the Quality of Your Life
Stress can manifest as a constant feeling of being unable to cope with the pressures of life, at home or at work.
In fact, a good definition of stress is this:
Stress = Pressure/Coping ability; or stress equals pressure divided by your coping ability.
The higher your level of coping ability, the more pressure you can handle before your stress level begins to feel like distress.
If you cannot reduce the pressures in your life, then the solution is to increase your coping ability. Your coping ability consists of both mental and physical elements. The mental elements have to do with how you frame or interpret your stressors; and how you re-think/re-feel your situation. Your physical coping ability has to do with ways of minimizing physiological arousal when you are under pressure.
I can teach you how to increase your mental and physical coping strategies and skills.
If you want to be able to cope better with the pressures in your life, and to feel happy despite those pressures, I can help you to develop the correct understanding and the appropriate skills.
1. Telephone counselling: You don’t even have to take time out to come and see me at my office; and we never even have to meet. We can work together over the telephone, and I can send you follow-up reading material, and you can email me with progress reports.
2. Face to face stress counselling: On the other hand, if you want to meet face to face, I can set up an appointment to meet in Hebden Bridge.
3. Self-help: Or you could study my book on Stress Management.***
In a short time you could have your stress level under control, if you respond well to my coaching and counselling guidance.
To set up an appointment, call me today on:
Telephone: 01422 843 629 (inside the UK)
Telephone: 44 1422 843 629 (outside the UK)
Or email me at: email@example.com
Or download an information pack: Information pack for Face to Face clients
Don’t miss this chance to sort your problems out.
Call me today.
Doctor of Counselling
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Chill Out: How to Control Your Stress Level, and to have a happier life, by Dr Jim Byrne
Third revised and expanded edition: 2012. The purpose of this book is to teach the reader what stress is, and how to combat it. It contains eighteen techniques for reducing physical and mental strain, and to enhance environmental control. It is written in the form of a self-help manual, with spaces for self-reflection exercises. However, it could also be used by counsellors, counselling students, and interested others, as a means to learn, understand and present the E-CENT approach to Stress Management in counselling, coaching and therapy contexts. If you need to control your stress, or you want to help others to do so, then this book is exactly what you need to read.
The more you read and re-read this book, and the more you apply the techniques described here, the more your coping resources will increase, and the less will you be affected by the fixed stressors in your life.
It is advisable to end your engagement with this book by constructing an action plan, as described in Chapter 10. If you want to maximize your chances of reducing your stress level, you should apply yourself diligently to implementing your own, personalized action plan.
“If you learn some of the techniques in this book, you will be able to enjoy life much more at home and at work, as you get your stress levels under control. You will no longer need to lash out at those people who put pressure on you, or to give in to every demand that life throws at you. You will begin to develop a sense of real mastery in your life.”
To purchase a copy of this 206 page book, please go to one of the following outlets:
To get your paperback copy, please click the Amazon link which serves your geographical locality:
Or you can get a Kindle eBook version, here:
For more information about this book, please click the following link: Chill Out and reduce stress.***