ZEN TIGERS AND DALE CARNEGIE

Zen Tigers and Strawberry Moments

Living in the moment is easier said than done.  Here’s a practical process to support that important aim.

(Re-posted) December 2016

ZEN TIGERS AND DALE CARNEGIE – OR HOW TO DEFEAT STRESS BY LIVING IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

Copyright (c) Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne, 2010/2011

Updated 23rd August 2011

the-buddhaThe gender of the Zen master (mistress?) in this story is irrelevant.  So you can choose to read the story as if it was about a man or a woman, to suit your preference.

One day, a Zen master went into the jungle.  S/He was enjoying the scenery: trees, vines, flowers; and listening to the sounds of the birds chirping, and various animals moving around and calling to each other.  Suddenly s/he saw a tiger.  Unfortunately, the tiger also saw the Zen master.  S/He ran for his/her life; but s/he ran so fast that s/he ran off the edge of a cliff.  Falling, s/he grasped for a tree root which projected from the face of the cliff, and ended up hanging from this root with his/her left hand.  The tiger reached the top of the cliff, and stared down hungrily at him/her, but could not reach him/her.

The Zen master looked down to the foot of the cliff, and saw another tiger, looking up hungrily.  Then, a couple of feet above his/her left hand, s/he noticed two little mice gnawing through the tree root, and s/he realized that before long s/he would (theoretically) go crashing down to the foot of the cliff.  Then s/he noticed, to his/her right, a small strawberry bush, with a large, ripe, wild strawberry.  S/He reached out and plucked the strawberry with his/her right hand, and popped it into his/her mouth.  It tasted delicious.

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drjim-counsellor9Explanation: A Zen master does not concern themselves with the past (the tiger up above); nor with the future (the tiger down below).  S/He is supremely centred in the present moment (the ‘strawberry tasting’ present moment).  The strawberry flavour is intended to communicate the blissfulness of being in the present moment, with no distractions from the past or the future.

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Illustration:

Table 1:

The past The present moment The future
The past no longer exists, and therefore cannot harm you.

The ‘tiger’ is up above, and cannot reach you.

The present moment is a razor-sharp moment of blissful being.

There are no ‘tigers’ in the present moment

The future is difficult and hard to know.  It has not arrived yet, and its shape is unknown.

The ‘tiger’ is down below, and cannot reach you.

stop-worrying-by-dale-carnegie-copyIn his book entitled ‘How to Stop Worrying and Start Living’, Dale Carnegie, also deals with the past, present and future.  I have extracted just three of his strategies, and related them to the Zen Tiger story, as follows.  They are listed as quotations at the top of each of the three columns in Table 2:

The past The present The future
“No use crying over spilled milk”.

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You should have gone into the forest; the tiger should have seen you; and you should have run over the cliff – if that’s what happened, then that is what should have happened.

There is no point lamenting reality.  Whatever happened actually did happen, because of all the little steps that had already been taken, by you, other people and the world.

“Live your life in day-tight compartments”.

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The only time that really exists is now.  The past is dead and gone.  The future is just a dream.  So enjoy the present moment.

If you can get your mind out of the past and the future, you will find that the present moment is blissful.

Practice daily meditation to get your mind into the present moment.

“I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it”.

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If the tiger is there when you fall, it must be there when you fall, but you have no way of knowing that it will be there, since all kinds of things may have changed by the time the ‘future arrives’.

The tiger may have gone home for lunch, or a missionary might have happened along the lower trail, and the tiger might be busy eating the missionary when you fall.

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Renatas-coaching-div2Dale Carnegie teaches many ways to get yourself into the present moment, including this quote from Sir William Osler:

“Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand”.

He is clear that ‘living in the past’, is a waste of emotional energy.  This is his advice:

“Shut off the past!  Let the dead past bury its dead …”

He is also clear that ‘living in the future’ is an unnecessary burden:

“…the load of tomorrow, added to that of yesterday, carried today, makes the strongest (person) falter.  Shut off the future as tightly as the past… The future is today.  There is no tomorrow.  The day of our salvation is now. … Prepare to cultivate the habit of a life of (living in) ‘day-tight compartments’. …”

If you think of something that needs to be done tomorrow, write it down in your diary, or on an action list, and then return your attention to this moment now.  This is the only moment that exists.

If you think of something from that past that worries you, write it out, learn what you can from that experience, and then move on.

renata-taylor-byrne-lifestyle-coachOnce you have trained yourself to live your life in day-tight compartments, then what?  Then you are faced with how to live well in the now:

“Think of your life as an hourglass”.  If you don’t know what an hourglass is, it is like a giant egg timer, made of two glass compartments, connected by a narrow tube.  Sand flows from one compartment down into the other, and measures time: three minutes for an egg-timer; one hour for an hourglass. “You know there are thousands of grains of sand in the top of the hourglass; and they all pass slowly and evenly through the narrow neck in the middle.  Nothing you or I could do would make more than one grain of sand pass through this narrow neck without impairing the hourglass.

“You and I and everyone else are like this hourglass. When we start in the morning, there are hundreds of tasks which we feel that we must accomplish that day, but if we do not take them one at a time, and let them pass through the day slowly and evenly, as do the grains of sand passing through the narrow neck of the hourglass, then we are bound to break our own physical and mental structure”.

Therefore, Dale Carnegie’s advice to us all is this:

“One grain of sand at a time… one task at a time”.  Pace yourself.

If we tackle our work life in this way, then we can go on and on, healthily and productively.  To illustrate this point, Dale Carnegie presents this quotation:

‘Anyone can carry his/her burden, however, hard, until nightfall.  Anyone can do his/her work, however hard, for one day.  Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down.  And this is all that life really means’.  Robert Louis Stevenson.

live-life-todayDon’t try to live your life a week or a month at a time:

“Each day is a new life to a wise person”.

Don’t waste your life dreaming of tomorrow.  Live your life today:

“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living.  We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon – instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today”.

Live your life in day-tight compartments, and enjoy the moment:

“Most of us are…stewing about yesterday’s jam and worrying about tomorrow’s jam instead of spreading today’s jam thick on our bread right now”. Dale Carnegie.

At this point the two stories merge.  The Zen master’s life was supremely centred in the present moment, and therefore s/he could reach out and pluck the wild strawberry of the present moment. And Dale Carnegie equates this present moment with the sweet taste of jam.  If you do not know why the beautiful taste of the strawberry, or the sweetness of jam, is used to describe the present moment, you have never meditated.  Try it and see.  When you come into the present moment, life is beautifully sweet. 🙂

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Teach yourself this philosophy of life, by reviewing the page over and over again, day after day after day.  The rewards that you reap will more than compensate for the effort of learning to live your life one day at a time.

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