Couples therapy assessment reports

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Dr Jim Byrne’s Maxi Counselling Service

for Couple Conflict, and other serious difficulties (including anger, stress and trauma, etc.)

An illustration of the kind of report that clients receive:

Here is a brief example of the kind of report that my Maxi-Service clients receive:

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Contents

Executive Summary……………………………………………………………. 2

Preamble……………………………………………………………………………… 6

Reflections on our face-to-face meeting…………………………….. 8

– The problem of mismatched attachment styles………… 8

– The problem of different levels of sexual appetite….. 8

– The problem of blaming or criticizing each other……. 8

– The power of story in shaping our perceptions and interpretations of our partner’s behaviour…………………………………………………. 9

– The ratio of positive to negative moments……………….. 9

– The Miracle Question………………………………………………… 10

– The four horsemen of the apocalypse……………………… 12

– The ‘Inner Couple’ model…………………………………………. 13

– Cutting the ties that bind………………………………………….. 13

Reflections upon your assessment results:………………………. 14

— 1. Your JPAQ results………………………………………………… 14

Key areas for growth for you, as a Responsible Workaholic and Playful Resistor:………………………………………………………………………. 14

Areas for Growth for Creative Daydreamers; and Brilliant Sceptics    15

— 2. Your emotional needs results……………………………… 17

Problem areas of your emotional needs…………………… 17

— 3. Your Lifestyle Factors………………………………………….. 18

— 4. Attachment Styles questionnaire results…………… 19

Conclusion………………………………………………………………………… 22

Appendix A: Your JPAQ results……………………………………….. 24

Your Responsible Workaholic (RW) adaptation………. 27

Key areas for growth for you:……………………………………… 28

Your Creative Daydreamer (CD) adaptation…………….. 29

Areas for Growth for Creative Daydreamers; and Brilliant Sceptics  31

Appendix B: Emotional Needs Assessment……………………… 33

Appendix C: Lifestyle Factors assessment………………………. 36

Appendix D: Attachment Styles Questionnaire results….. 37

Appendix E1: Jim’s model of male sexual values……………. 42

Appendix E2: Steve Biddulph on Manhood and Sexuality 48

Appendix F: Jim’s Gradual Desensitization process to reduce your interpersonal anxiety (Proposed Part 1 of the healing process)         49

Appendix G: Jim’s Distance Learning course for a New Effective Philosophy of Love/Life (Proposed Part 2 of the healing/re-education process)  54

Appendix H: The ‘Inner Couple’ model as Part 3 of a re-education process for your relationship attitudes and behaviours……………… 73

Appendix I: The Confidence to be Yourself:……………………… 75

Appendix J: Introduction to Transactional Analysis…….. 93

Appendix K: Assertive communication and assertion training 128

Appendix L: More on assertiveness skills……………………… 138

Appendix M: Levine and Heller’s Chapter 9………………….. 153

Notes and References………………………………………………………. 154

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Unsolicited Client Testimonial

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Maxi-Service Report

J.A.G. came to see me because he could not make his marriage work.  He had already completed various questionnaires, and so I had a good sense of who he “was being” (as opposed to “who he had to permanently be”!)  I asked him some supplementary questions, and probed certain aspects of his “story” about his relationship.

Then he went away, and I spent three full days (and perhaps a bit extra) writing up a confidential report[1], in which I synthesized everything I had come to know about his marriage, and everything that 22 years’ experience had taught me would help to move his relationship forward (if he did the homework I set for him!)

Soon after he finished working through his report, he sent me this unsolicited testimonial in an email:

“Hi Jim, Thank you for the marathon effort you put into this report.  You have far exceeded my expectations, in terms of quality and quantity.  Some of the ‘teaching materials’ you have included speak directly to my learning needs. I certainly got my money’s worth, and then some! 🙂  And the report certainly clarified the central problem, and I have been able to come to a decision which was beyond my reach before consulting you. Obviously I’ve got tons of work to do on my relationship skills (as does Suzie [not her real name – JB]). Many thanks for all your time, talent, insights, thought and effort.  I greatly appreciate it.”

J.A.G., Littleborough, Lancs. October 2019.

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[1] By revealing the contents pages of his report, I have not revealed anything about his personal data, nor anything about his personal identity.  For example, his real initials are not J.A.G.!