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Updated on Monday 13th February 2023
Dr Jim Byrne’s Counselling Service: Sample Report
For Couple Conflict, and other serious difficulties (including anger, stress and trauma, etc.)
An illustration of the kind of report that clients receive:
Here is a brief example of the kind of report that my clients receive, when they sign up for my Enhanced Main Service.
This report was written during the early developmental stages of my Enhance Main Service. It was written and delivered in one complete report. Since that time, I have tended to split my reports into two or three or even four chunks, depending on their length and complexity. (Please see illustration at the end of this page).
This helps my clients because they do not feel overwhelmed by a very long, detailed report. And it helps me to keep feeding information to several clients per week, instead of one client per week.
The sample shown first below was produced for a man with a marital problem; but my reports cover a range of topics from anger and anxiety, and attachment issues; through confidence and depression, to stress and trauma, and unprocessed emotional experiences. (But most of my clients have couple relationship problems!)
This first sample report, below, has 16 appendices, which today would be sent in several “chunks”:
Firstly, if he was signing up today, this client would get six appendices per Single Package. So this report would translate into approximately two or three Single Packages.
Secondly, each package would entitle him to an average of six follow-up documents.
Contents
Executive Summary……………………………………………………………. 2
Preamble……………………………………………………………………………… 6
Reflections on our face-to-face meeting…………………………….. 8
– The problem of mismatched attachment styles………… 8
– The problem of different levels of sexual appetite….. 8
– The problem of blaming or criticizing each other……. 8
– The power of story in shaping our perceptions and interpretations of our partner’s behaviour……………………………………………….. 9
– The ratio of positive to negative moments……………….. 9
– The Miracle Question………………………………………………… 10
– The four horsemen of the apocalypse……………………… 12
– The ‘Inner Couple’ model…………………………………………. 13
– Cutting the ties that bind………………………………………….. 13
Reflections upon your assessment results:………………………. 14
— 1. Your JPAQ results………………………………………………… 14
Key areas for growth for you, as a Responsible Workaholic and Playful Resistor:………………………………………………………………………. 14
Areas for Growth for Creative Daydreamers; and Brilliant Sceptics 15
— 2. Your emotional needs results……………………………… 17
Problem areas of your emotional needs…………………… 17
— 3. Your Lifestyle Factors………………………………………….. 18
— 4. Attachment Styles questionnaire results…………… 19
Conclusion………………………………………………………………………… 22
Appendix A: Your JPAQ results……………………………………….. 24
Your Responsible Workaholic (RW) adaptation………. 27
Key areas for growth for you:……………………………………… 28
Your Creative Daydreamer (CD) adaptation…………….. 29
Areas for Growth for Creative Daydreamers; and Brilliant Sceptics 31
Appendix B: Emotional Needs Assessment……………………… 33
Appendix C: Lifestyle Factors assessment………………………. 36
Appendix D: Attachment Styles Questionnaire results….. 37
Appendix E1: Jim’s model of male sexual values……………. 42
Appendix E2: Steve Biddulph on Manhood and Sexuality 48
Appendix F: Jim’s Gradual Desensitization process to reduce your interpersonal anxiety (Proposed Part 1 of the healing process) 49
Appendix G: Jim’s Distance Learning course for a New Effective Philosophy of Love/Life (Proposed Part 2 of the healing/re-education process) 54
Appendix H: The ‘Inner Couple’ model as Part 3 of a re-education process for your relationship attitudes and behaviours……………… 73
Appendix I: The Confidence to be Yourself:……………………… 75
Appendix J: Introduction to Transactional Analysis…….. 93
Appendix K: Assertive communication and assertion training 128
Appendix L: More on assertiveness skills……………………… 138
Appendix M: Levine and Heller’s Chapter 9………………….. 153
Notes and References………………………………………………………. 154
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Unsolicited Client Testimonial
J.A.G. came to see me because he could not make his marriage work. He had already completed various questionnaires, and so I had a good sense of who he “was being” (as opposed to “who he had to permanently be”!) I asked him some supplementary questions, and probed certain aspects of his “story” about his relationship.
Then he went away, and I spent several full days (and perhaps more than one week) writing up a confidential report[1], in which I synthesized everything I had come to know about his marriage, and everything that 22 years’ experience (in 2000) had taught me would help to move his relationship forward (if he did the homework I set for him!)
Soon after he finished working through his report, he sent me this unsolicited testimonial in an email:
“Hi Jim, Thank you for the marathon effort you put into this report. You have far exceeded my expectations, in terms of quality and quantity. Some of the ‘teaching materials’ you have included speak directly to my learning needs. I certainly got my money’s worth, and then some! 🙂 And the report certainly clarified the central problem, and I have been able to come to a decision which was beyond my reach before consulting you. Obviously I’ve got tons of work to do on my relationship skills (as does Suzie [not her real name – JB]). Many thanks for all your time, talent, insights, thought and effort. I greatly appreciate it.”
J.A.G., Littleborough, Lancs. October 2019.
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[1] By revealing the contents pages of his report, I have not revealed anything about his personal data, nor anything about his personal identity. For example, his real initials are not J.A.G.! And he could live in Scotland (or not!)
Postscript on 13th February 2023
Today, my reports for clients of my Enhanced Main Service are much less onerous; and much more manageable and digestible; without losing any of their depth and breadth, and informative detail.
They are still something of a challenge, to read and digest; and to incorporate into your own life. But there is no gain without some pain.
Here is a recent example of how I began to help K. Doh, who had a serious marital problem, which was threatening to end a 30 year marriage:
Part One of my Three-part Report for K. Doh
What happened at our meeting; and my observations and reflections; plus documents to be sent…
By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling
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Report commenced on Friday 3rd February 2023
And completed on: Tuesday 7th February at 15.30 hrs.
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Introduction
In this report I will focus on what happened at my meeting with K. Doh, on Friday 3rd February 2023. I will then reflect upon that experience, and form some conclusions.
Then I will construct the final list of six (or seven) documents to be sent to K, over the next eighteen (to twenty-one) weeks – (allowing three weeks for K to study each document.)
The overall structure of this report is as follows:
Introduction…………………………………………………………………………… 1
What happened at my meeting with K?……………………………………… 2
Observations and reflections…………………………………………………… 7
Forming conclusions……………………………………………………………… 8
Future work together……………………………………………………………… 9
Six Documents to be sent to K………………………………………………… 9
Documents to be sent to K. Doh
Document 1: Understanding love and relationship. (Already sent).
Document 2: Ten Principles of Anger Management. (To be sent on Friday 24th February).
Document 3: Eighteen principles of Happy Couple Relationships. (To be send on Friday 17th March).
Document 4: Introduction to Transactional Analysis. (To be sent on Friday 7th April).
Document 5: A structural analysis of K’s 4 Personality Adaptations. (To be sent on Friday 28th April 2023).
Document 6A: The ‘Cutting the Ties’ process.
Document 6B: The ‘Inner Couple’ model.
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The first document had already been sent, on the day of our meeting. And K was already digesting it.
This was his feedback to me, after reading my report for him:
“Hello Jim, Thanks for your report which has helped to clarify a lot of things for me, and I can now see that I was part of the problem, which was not my earlier view. You have given me some great solutions, great ways of moving forward, and I am very grateful for that. …”
K.D. (Bradford, West Yorkshire). A Single Package of the Main Service, for serious couple relationship problems.
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