Writing therapeutic stories: 2 examples

NTS eBook No.2 – Healing the Heart and Mind: Two examples of writing therapy stories, plus reflective analysis, by Jim Byrne

Because of the intensity of my distress, I eventually had to seek help to make sense of my barren life.  This began the journey of therapy, including much writing therapy, which I describe in this book.  Here is an extract from the end of the book:

“Underneath the cumulative, interpretative experiences of this organism (or ‘person’), sitting here writing, there is the original, pure ‘capacity to be aware’ that existed before the first experience came in through my eyes, ears or skin.  And that capacity to be aware is universal, and can be experience every day through meditation. And that capacity to be aware is capable of reinterpreting everything that was once interpreted, and reformulating every one of its early conclusions (that can be made conscious), or overwriting them with a new orienting set of interpretations (when they cannot be made conscious).

“And now – after completing my therapy (much of it in writing) – my basic orientation in the world is turned on its head.  My orientation towards my fellow humans is turned upside down.  Now it is this:

‘The former practice of physically maiming, exploiting and abusing children seems to have been gradually replaced in modern times by a form of mental cruelty that is masked by the honorific term child-rearing.  Since (child) training begins in many cultures in infancy during the initial symbiotic relationship between mother and child, this early conditioning makes it virtually impossible for the child to discover what is actually happening to him(self or herself).  The child’s dependence on his or her parents’ love also makes it impossible in later years to recognize these traumatizations, which often remain hidden behind the early idealization of the parents for the rest of the child’s life’.  (Page 4).

And, as Robin Skynner says: ‘It’s never too late to have a happy childhood’. And that’s what I got, along with lots of other benefits, from my long journey through writing therapy.

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You’ve got to do your therapy – face to face or in writing – in order to reclaim your original potential as a wonderful, joyful, creative human being!

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“Was this 61 year journey worth the effort?

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To find out how I processed my story of origins, and my story of my relationship with my mother – and how you could process and resolve your difficult stories from the past – please click the Amazon link that serves your area of the world:

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Brief Extract:

Foreword

The core of this book consists of two autobiographical stories of my own journey through a difficult life, and a long therapeutic process of recovery, which went on for many years.  The two most important elements of this autobiographical material are:

(a) My story of origins, which describes the kinds of psychological problems that arose out of being a poor country boy in a relatively middle class city school; and how this was further compounded by my relationships at home.

(b) My story of relationship, especially my very poor relationship with my mother.  I was relatively alexithymic and somewhat autistic as a boy.  My mother was stressed by severe economic deprivation, and she was carrying a lot of unresolved psychological issues from her family of origin.

writing-therapy-explanationHowever, it would not work very well to dump you into my undigested autobiography, and so I have prefaced both stories with a significant degree of explanation of the writing therapy approach to digesting past experiences; plus lots of scaffolding around the actual autobiographical stories.

My motivation in producing this book is as follows: If you come from a family that did not teach you to be emotionally intelligent, then you are going to have a difficult time understanding your own feelings, the feelings of others, and how to communicate about feelings in your personal life. I have spent decades repairing the damage which was done to me by my relatively autistic family of origin.  But I now know it is possible; that stories play a huge part; and learning from your own stories, and the stories of others, is an important element of the journey.

In this book, I have set out to maximize the benefit that you can derive from reading and understanding my journey, and my psychological and philosophical research around that journey.

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To find out how I processed my story of origins, and my story of my relationship with my mother – and how you could process and resolve your difficult stories from the past – please click the Amazon link that serves your area of the world:

Amazon.com Amazon.co.uk Amazon.it Amazon.nl
Amazon.ca Amazon.com.au Amazon.co.jp Amazon.de
Amazon.es Amazon.fr

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