What is Counselling, Page 3

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What is counselling? Page 3…

By Dr Jim Byrne, copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 24th January 2021

Continued from What is Counselling, Page 2…?

On these web pages, I have explored a range of counselling approaches.  (About 12 or 15 of the 400 varieties that exist!)

Bonus feature 3:

Q&A Mini-paper No.C101

An Introduction to Counselling

by Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, University of Manchester

8th October 2013

Preface

drjim-counsellor1This mini-paper includes a reflective review of Chapter 1 of the book just mentioned above:

McLeod, John (2003) An Introduction to Counselling.  Third Edition. Buckingham: Open University Press. Pages 1-19.

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Introduction

Dr McLeod’s seventeen page introduction is, in my opinion, slightly too long and detailed to be optimally useful for getting a quick overview of the answer to the question: What is counselling?

I have therefore boiled it down to four pages in an effort to distil the essence of Dr McLeod’s message.  I began by taking notes and then thinking through the various elements of his presentation, to arrive at an optimal structure for my presentation of his insights and conclusions.

Next, I wrote a four page summary of his chapter; and then boiled that summary down to the following one-paragraph summary.

(I also answered some of the post text questions and sub-questions, and I have appended them at the end of this mini-paper).

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The Bamboo Paradox: The limits of human flexibility in a cruel world – and how to protect, defend and strengthen yourself

Finding the Golden Mean that leads to strength and viable flexibility, in order to be happy, healthy and realistically successful

A, Front cover-2By Dr Jim Byrne.

With contributed chapters by Renata Taylor-Byrne

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The Institute for E-CENT Publications: 2020

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Are human beings like bamboo?  Are we designed to withstand unlimited pressure, stress and strain? Is our destiny to be sacrificed on the altar of ‘flexible working arrangements’?

We live in a world in which there are dark forces that wish us to forget that we are fleshy bodies, with physical and mental needs; and physical and mental limitations; and to be willing to function like mere cogs in the wheels of somebody else’s financial or technological empire.

Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) has played into this narrative, and given it philosophical support, by promoting a form of Extreme Stoicism in the name of therapy and wisdom, which it patently is not. (General Cognitive Behaviour Therapy [CBT] also supports this agenda, but to a lesser degree, or in a less obvious way! And some forms of Extreme Buddhism also advocate ‘detachment’ from material concerns, such as the need for a balanced life!)

Dr Jim's officeIn this book, I review the research that we have done on the limits of human endurance, and the determinants of that endurance – as well as identifying a viable philosophy of life – which will help you to optimize your strength and flexibility, while at the same time taking care of your health and happiness.

If you want to take good care of yourself in the modern mad-market, you could benefit from studying this book. It will provide you with both a compass and a suit of armour which will support you with the challenges and battles you will inevitably face.

Click for more information.***

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Paperback copy: £14.99 GBP***

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Kindle eBook: £5.99 GBP.***

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Brief summary

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Counselling is a process which begins when a person (the client) approaches a professionally trained person (the counsellor) for help with a problem of everyday living.  The counsellor actively listens and works collaboratively with the client to help the client to arrive at a satisfactory resolution of their problem.  That covers the person centred approach.  To adequately cover the two other major schools of thought in counselling, we must also add: A psychodynamic counsellor will look for the roots of the client’s problems in their early childhood experiences (as well as how the handle their current thinking, feeling and behaviour) – and help them to digest previously undigested experiences.  On the other hand, a cognitive-behavioural counsellor will look for the roots of the client’s problem in their current approach to thinking and behaving in response to their environment – and encourage them to change their system of beliefs about troublesome aspects of their environment.

Extended (four-page) summary

Dr McLeod suggests that it is the needs and goals of an individual which constitute the focus of counselling help.  He suggests that counselling emerged as a product of Western culture in the twentieth century, related to the needs of individuals in large, impersonal organizations.  He goes on to say that, since then, counselling and psychotherapy have largely taken over the roles of the priest and the community based agony aunts of an earlier era.  Counselling thus acts as a way of being known, and of gaining succour in times of personal and especially emotional crisis.

The most fundamental feature of counselling, according to Dr McLeod, is that “…it can only happen if the person seeking help, the client, wants it to happen”.  (Page 15).

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To continue reading about Chapter 1 of this book, please click the link below which will take you to a downloadable document in Word format:

Q&A Mini-paper No.C101 what is counselling, bonus feature

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BlueLogo13CIf you would like to experience the process of counselling with Dr Jim Byrne, then please see his range of services at The ABC Counselling and Psychotherapy Division.*** 

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On the other hand, you could consult Renata Taylor-Byrne, to sample her approach to counselling-coaching, which she calls Lifestyle Coaching.***

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The Emergent Social Individual:

Or how social experience shapes the human body-brain-mind

Kindle Cover1By Dr Jim Byrne

Copyright © Jim Byrne, 2009-2019

The E-CENT perspective sees the relationship of mother-baby as a dialectical (or interactional) one of mutual influence, in which the baby is ‘colonized’ by the mother/carer, and enrolled over time into the mother/carer’s culture, including language and beliefs, scripts, stories, etc.  This dialectic is one between the innate urges of the baby and the cultural and innate and culturally shaped behaviours of the mother.  The overlap between mother and baby gives rise to the ‘ego space’ in which the identity and habits of the baby take shape.  And in that ego space, a self-identity appears as an emergent phenomenon, based on our felt sense of being a body (the core self) and also on our conscious and non-conscious stories about who we are and where we have been, who has related to us, and how: (the autobiographical self).

Learn more about this book.***

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E-Book version only available at the moment.***

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See also: The Institute for E-CENT Counselling.

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How to Resolve Conflict and Unhappiness: Especially during Festive Celebrations:

Coping with and resolving frustrations, disappointments and interpersonal clashes at family celebrations like Christmas, Yuletide, Hanukkah, Eid, and Thanksgiving

Front cover 1Dr Jim Byrne (With Renata Taylor-Byrne)

Conflict can happen in families at any time of year.  It jut so happens that the first Monday after the Christmas & New Year annual holidays is called ‘Divorce Day’, because that is when the highest number of divorce petitions is issued. And it seems most likely that the other major family holiday times are the runners up in the divorce stakes.  However, what is hidden under these divorce statistics is the mountain of personal and social misery that precedes such drastic ‘solutions’ to repeated conflict, disappointments and interpersonal clashes.

But there is a better way to deal with these problems. Rather than letting the misery build up over time, you can take control of both your own mind, and the way you communicate within your family and society.  You can insulate your social relationships from constant or repeated misery and unhappiness; and learn to have a wonderful life with your family and friends.

The solutions have been assembled by Dr Jim Byrne in this book about how to re-think/re-feel/re-frame your encounters with your significant others; how to communicate so they will listen; how to listen so they can communicate with you; and how to manage your lifestyle for optimum peace, happiness and success in all your relationships.

PAPERBACK AND eBOOK ON CONFLICT RESOLUTION…

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HOW CAN COUNSELLING HELP?

Counselling can help in a number of different ways: with emotional functioning; behavioural functioning; relationship management and communication; goal setting and pursuit; refining problems; identifying solutions; promoting efficient and effective actions; and so on.

Outcomes can include that the client…:

1. …thinks more clearly, or to better effect;

2. …manages their emotions better, in that they no longer over-emote, nor under-emote, relative to their environmental situations;

3. …behaves more effectively at home and at work;

4. …feels happier; more alive; more integrated; more in control; more goal oriented; and so on.

Here’s a little video clip showing the experiences of some former counselling clients:

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See the range of books on E-CENT counselling and related subjects.***

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If you would like to experience the process of counselling with Dr Jim Byrne, then please see his range of services at The ABC Counselling Division.***

And Renata Taylor-Byrne’s counselling and coaching service can be found here: Renata’s Counselling and Coaching Division.***

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Lifestyle Counselling and Coaching for the Whole Person:

Or how to integrate nutritional insights, exercise and sleep coaching into talk therapy.

The Lifestyle Counselling Book

By Dr Jim Byrne, with Renata Taylor-Byrne

This book has been found in practice to be very helpful to counsellors and psychotherapists who want to understand the role of lifestyle factors in human disturbance. Because diet, exercise and sleep are increasingly seen to be important determinants of mental health and emotional well-being, it is now necessary to rethink our models of counselling and therapy.

Paperback and eBook versions.

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Learn more.***

This book shows counsellors how to incorporate lifestyle coaching and counselling into their system of talk therapy.  It will also help self-help enthusiasts to take better care of their own mental and physical health, and emotional well-being.

Prices: from £4.26 GBP (Kindle) to £12.64 (paperback)

Paperback and eBook versions.

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Learn more.***

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BlueLogo13CIf you would like to experience the process of counselling with Dr Jim Byrne, then please see his range of services at The ABC Counselling and Psychotherapy Division.*** 

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On the other hand, you could consult Renata Taylor-Byrne, to sample her approach to counselling-coaching, which she calls Lifestyle Coaching.***

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End of page 3.  Continued on What is Counselling, Page 4…?

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