Hebden Bridge counselling, psychotherapy and coaching services. Narrative and lifestyle approaches to problems of everyday living – including couple conflict, anger management, communication problems, life goals, stress, self-confidence, anxiety and depression.
These three books have proved very popular with counsellors and psychologists on LinkedIn, and they are selling in significant numbers.
It seems there is an appetite for radical change abroad in the world of counselling and psychotherapy at the moment, and people are ready to explore new ideas. In particular, the relationship between the body and mind (the body-mind connection); the problems of sedentary lifestyle and inadequate nutrition; plus inadequate sleep; and how to process our own experiences in a journal.
All of these developments are very encouraging for the future health of our counsellors and therapists, and for their clients!
Dr Jim’s Blog: Literature, personal writing of fiction, and therapeutic healing of the heart and mind
Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, July 2018
Individual Life is a gift, bestowed by Collective Life, upon fragments of Living Stuff. Life is a rolling floor-show of life living itself!
We come into existence knowing nothing; and guessing what life might be about. We stumble through childhood, suffering the blows of negative treatment, and savouring the kiss of good fortune. We float into adolescence with the naiveté of a baby encountering its first crocodile! And, if we are fortunate, we encounter love in our late twenties, or our early thirties, and feel the full range of emotions: from ecstatic and sweet joy, to fearful and angry insecurity.
The Bamboo Paradox: The limits of human flexibility in a cruel world – and how to protect, defend and strengthen yourself
Finding the Golden Mean that leads to strength and viable flexibility, in order to be happy, healthy and realistically successful
By Dr Jim Byrne.
With contributed chapters by Renata Taylor-Byrne
The Institute for E-CENT Publications: 2020
Are human beings like bamboo? Are we designed to withstand unlimited pressure, stress and strain? Is our destiny to be sacrificed on the altar of ‘flexible working arrangements’?
We live in a world in which there are dark forces that wish us to forget that we are fleshy bodies, with physical and mental needs; and physical and mental limitations; and to be willing to function like mere cogs in the wheels of somebody else’s financial or technological empire.
Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) has played into this narrative, and given it philosophical support, by promoting a form of Extreme Stoicism in the name of therapy and wisdom, which it patently is not. (General Cognitive Behaviour Therapy [CBT] also supports this agenda, but to a lesser degree, or in a less obvious way! And some forms of Extreme Buddhism also advocate ‘detachment’ from material concerns, such as the need for a balanced life!)
In this book, I review the research that we have done on the limits of human endurance, and the determinants of that endurance – as well as identifying a viable philosophy of life – which will help you to optimize your strength and flexibility, while at the same time taking care of your health and happiness.
If you want to take good care of yourself in the modern mad-market, you could benefit from studying this book. It will provide you with both a compass and a suit of armour which will support you with the challenges and battles you will inevitably face.
Often, we need to encounter the possibility of love in more than one relationship before we can make sense of this ennobling and devastating emotion.
We seek words for our experiences of love and hate, joy and devastation, only to fall back again and again into the void of unknowing: the wordless pit of unconsciousness.
If we are fortunate, we will discover some aspects of the great literature of those who traversed these trackless voids of human beginnings and developments before us; and we may feel in our hearts and guts the pains and pleasures, the defeats and victories, that those who went before us felt and described.
How to Resolve Conflict and Unhappiness: Especially during Festive Celebrations:
Coping with and resolving frustrations, disappointments and interpersonal clashes at family celebrations like Christmas, Yuletide, Hanukkah, Eid, and Thanksgiving
Dr Jim Byrne (With Renata Taylor-Byrne)
Conflict can happen in families at any time of year. It jut so happens that the first Monday after the Christmas & New Year annual holidays is called ‘Divorce Day’, because that is when the highest number of divorce petitions is issued. And it seems most likely that the other major family holiday times are the runners up in the divorce stakes. However, what is hidden under these divorce statistics is the mountain of personal and social misery that precedes such drastic ‘solutions’ to repeated conflict, disappointments and interpersonal clashes.
But there is a better way to deal with these problems. Rather than letting the misery build up over time, you can take control of both your own mind, and the way you communicate within your family and society. You can insulate your social relationships from constant or repeated misery and unhappiness; and learn to have a wonderful life with your family and friends.
The solutions have been assembled by Dr Jim Byrne in this book about how to re-think/re-feel/re-frame your encounters with your significant others; how to communicate so they will listen; how to listen so they can communicate with you; and how to manage your lifestyle for optimum peace, happiness and success in all your relationships.
The highest calling of a human being is to make sense of our own life, as moral beings, and to share that understanding with those who follow along behind us, so that they might avoid – or traverse more smoothly – the swamps and volcanoes that we had to endure.
Whether we are born in the smallest village in Ireland, or the largest suburb of the largest city in the United States of America; or somewhere in South America; or South Asia, or Central Africa; there is nothing to say that we may not have the latest parable of human suffering and divine love on the tip of our tongues!
Daniel O’Beeve’s Amazing Journey: From traumatic origins to transcendent love
This book was written with two purposes in mind. To complete the author’s own therapeutic journey; and to provide a model for the reader to use if they wish to write their own therapeutically-helpful memoir.
Daniel O’Beeve was a strong-willed seeker after personal liberation: growing up between 1945-1985.
Transcribed by Jim Byrne
It is rare that any of us gets a chance to peer inside the life of a troubled individual, from a dysfunctional family, and to have our lives enriched by their struggles for freedom and self-understanding. Furthermore, their quest for love in a cold world can motivate us to keep trying to promote our own emotional liberation.
So speak to the world of your journey, that you might know where you have been; and that others might benefit from your journey!
The reading of good quality literature – from any and every era of the novel and the stage play – is emotionally educating, and healing of traumatic past experiences. You can recover from sadness and depression; anger towards the world; and defeatist timidity: Just by exposing your mind and heart to the stories of others who went before you.
The writing of semi-autobiographical stories – with some, little emotional distance from direct, personal experience – is a great way to indirectly digest past traumatic or difficult experiences.
A good semi-autobiographical story, built on fragments learned from the insights of generations of novelists and other authors, is a great way to pass on personal healing examples and therapeutic gifts. And that is what I have tried to do in my story about Daniel O’Beeve.***
I would like to encourage readers to begin to write short pieces, stories – in semi-autobiographical form – about their own difficulties in the past. It will help you enormously to grow your emotional literacy (or EQ).
Dr Jim’s Counselling Blog: My Christmas and New Year Update
Writing counselling books, balanced life, and revised fees
Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2015-2017
So now it’s (still) Christmas – 29th December – and moving towards
the New Year marker. And it’s time to take stock, and to plan the next period ahead.
We have recently produced an ABC Newsletter, in which we recorded that we have produced three new books in 2017, plus some new papers. And so I feel the need for a ‘fallow period’, before launching into the next writing project.
I have worked up to the present moment, and so I intend to take most of January and February off, from major writing projects, and to ‘sharpen my saw’ (to borrow a phrase from Stephen Covey, the author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People).
Of course, I will continue to see counselling and therapy clients. The only change in this area will be that it’s time to put my fees up. These new fees will not apply to my current clients, until 1st April 2018, but they will apply to all new clients immediately.
See below for revised fees schedule.
The fallow period
I am hoping and planning to have a fallow period from now until perhaps early March, during which I will try to clear my desk of a huge backlog of reading. For me, reading is a relatively ‘fallow’ activity, compared with writing and editing and publishing books and papers.
At the end of that period, not only will I have rested my ‘writing/publishing muscles’, but I also have updated my knowledge base so I am all set for another nine months of active production!
Beginning in March 2018, I intend to write the first of three volumes of a series on How to manage effective couple relationships.
This will be a distillation of my twenty years’ experience of working with couples to help them achieve happy relationships. The material will be divided over three volumes, because it is too much to fit comfortably into one book. And, because it includes a range of new ideas and new skills, it will be more comfortable for the reader to study one volume at a time.
I also hope to begin a new book on the nature of thinking; its relationship to feelings and emotions; and the best ways for counsellors to engage with these issues when working with clients in counselling and therapy.
And if I have any time left over, I will begin working on a revised book on Counselling the Whole Person.
Revised fees, 2018
SCHEDULE OF FEES FOR FACE-TO-FACE CLIENTS
For new clients, commencing after 1st January 2018, I offer a revised scale of fees, for simplicity, and to take account of the continuing atmosphere of austerity.
If you are unemployed, or on a basic state pension, I can see you for a fee of £50.00 per 45 minute session.
If you are employed, and earning less than £25,000 per year, before tax, I can see you for a fee of £60.00.
If you earn more than £25,000 per year, before tax, but less than £50,000, then I can see you for a fee of £70.00 per session.
And if you earn £50,000 or more per year, before tax, then I can see you for a fee of £80.00.
Those fees all refer to daytime appointments, on Wednesday to Friday of each week. If you want an evening or weekend appointment, the standard fee is £20 more than your weekday fee.
I now offer just four appointment slots per day – 10.00am, 11.00am; 2.00pm, and 3.00pm. This helps to ensure that I am in tip-top condition, physically and mentally, when I see you.
On alternate Saturdays I offer two appointment slots – at 11.00am and 2.00pm.
And one evening per week, I offer a late session – normally at 7.00 pm until 7.45 pm.
I therefore offer a total of 13 appointment slots during a normal working week; plus four Saturday slots per month.
Since nine or ten of my weekday slots are already routinely booked up, in advance, it is advisable to let me know immediately if you would like one of the remaining two or three slots.